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‘We sold 31 human heads, body parts to prominent personalities in Kwara’, Suspects confess

Eight suspects arrested by the Police in Ilorin, the Kwara State capital, have confessed to selling 31 human heads to yet-to-be identified prominent personalities in the country.

They also confessed to selling body parts for rituals and spiritual powers.

The suspects were busted by a Joint Investigative Team of the Nigeria Police Force, following information from the public which led to the search of the house of the principal suspect, Azeez Yakubu. A search of Yakubu’s residence at No. 20 Ile Opa Adeta Compound, Ilorin led to the discovery of 11 human skulls, some pieces of human bones, human hairs, and powder suspected to be ground human bones and charms

A statement by Jimoh Moshood, the police spokesman, on Wednesday listed the suspects as: Azeez Yakub a.k.a Baba Muri (principal suspect), Abdulrasaq Babamale, Aishat Yunisa, Lukman Saka, Ahmed Yahaya a.k.a. Eko, Abdulfatai Kadri a.k.a Adedoyin (Vigilante Commander, Adeta Zone, Ilorin), Soliu Ayinde a.k.a. Baba Fawasi and Abdulganiyu Bamidele.

The statement read: “The suspects [were involved] in kidnapping, murder, ritual killings, exhuming of dead bodies from where buried in the community, removing their vital body parts such as the skull, genital organs, eyes, human hair, certain body bones and sell to prominent personalities in the country for rituals and spiritual powers. The suspects confessed and admitted to have sold thirty-one (31) human heads to some personalities in Ilorin and other towns in Kwara State and other contiguous states to Kwara State.

“Azeez Yakub a.k.a Baba Muri (Principal Suspect) who is a notorious armed robber and have been arrested, charged to court and convicted to prison severally. This suspect now in Police custody has made confessional statement to the Police Investigation Team. He confessed and admitted that one Abdulfatai Kadri a.k.a. (Adedoyin), the vigilante commander in Adeta Zone, introduced him to the business and also supplies the human skulls and other body parts for him to sell. Eleven (11) Human skulls were recovered from his possession during police search on his residence.

“The principal suspect confessed that Abdulfatai Kadri has brought to him twenty (20) human skulls that he exhumed from the Ilorin Community Central Burial ground situated after [Eid] praying ground in Ilorin, Kwara State. He further admitted that Abdulfatai Kadri a.k.a. Adedoyin usually brings in the human heads to him in batches of four (4), six (6), eight (8) for safe keeping and usually collects them within a day or two, and also informed him of the personalities in Ilorin and others he usually supply the heads to.

“Abdulrasaq Babamole was equally mentioned by the principal suspect, Azeez Yakub to have bought one (1) human skull from him. Powder suspected to be grinded human bones was recovered in his possession. He has also confessed to the crime admitting his criminal role.

“Aishat Yunisa a.k.a. Iya Alagbo was mentioned by the principal suspect, Azeez Yakub to be a member of the gang who deals in selling of human body parts. During interrogation, she confessed and admitted to have supplied two (2) human skulls she obtained from Azeez Yakub to one Ahmed Yahaya and Lukman Saka. Ahmed Yahaya and Lukeman Saka were indicted in the confessional statement made by the principal suspect, Azeez Yakub.

“They confessed to have bought two (2) human skulls from the principal suspect through Aishat Yunusa, grinded for their usage and rituals. Abdulfatai Kadri a.k.a. Adedoyin is a vigilante Commander in Adeta Zone indicted by the principal suspect to have introduced him to the business and also supplies the human skull and other body parts for him to sell. He is still being investigated on his criminal roles in the incident.

“Soliu Ayinde a.k.a. Baba Fawasi: This suspect also in police custody confessed and admitted to be a member of the syndicate who receives human parts from both Abdulfatai Kadri a.k.a. Adedoyin, the Vigilante commander and Azeez Yakub the principal suspect. In his possession was recovered human bones cut-off from the leg of one of their victims. He admitted to the Police investigators that the principal suspect Azeez Yakub and Abdulfatai Kadri a.k.a. Adedoyin are working together. At a time he requested for human skull from Azeez Yakub, in his presence, Azeez Yakub called Abdulfatai Kadri a.k.a. Adedoyin to bring the human skull after collecting N15,000 from him.

“Abdulganiyu Bamidele: He confessed and admitted to buying human skull from the principal suspect, Azeez Yakub and supply same to his friend one Kayode still at large. All the suspects have made confessional statements to the Police Investigation Team and have confessed and admitted to the various criminal roles they played in the recent kidnapping, gruesome murder and ritual killing attacks on innocent residents in Ilorin Metropolis and other towns in Kwara State.

“Investigation is still ongoing and efforts being intensified to arrest other suspects including prominent personalities mentioned by the suspects but who are still at large. They will all be arraigned in court on completion of investigation.”

176 Abducted, No Word From Kidnappers, Kwara Authorities: Families fear pregnant women, children dead

Families of residents abducted by suspected Boko Haram terrorists from Woro community in Kaiama Local Government Area of Kwara State have said they fear some of the captives, particularly pregnant women and children, may have died in captivity due to the prolonged silence from both the terrorists and government authorities.

The distraught families spoke to SaharaReporters on Thursday evening as anxiety and despair continue to spread across the rural community months after the mass abduction.

According to relatives of the victims, there has been no meaningful communication from the terrorists since the captives were taken away, while the government has also failed to provide any concrete update on rescue efforts.

One of the family members said the situation has left many households devastated and hopeless.

“We are living in fear every day,” the relative told SaharaReporters. “Since they were taken, we have not heard anything from the terrorists or from the government. No calls, no demands, nothing. This is exactly a month they paraded them in a video, we have not heard anything again and government seems to have move on.”

The source said the silence has heightened fears that some of the abductees may have already died, especially vulnerable individuals among them.

“We are particularly worried about the pregnant women and the children,” the source said. “Some of them were already weak before they were taken. If they are in the bush without food, without medical care, how can they survive for this long?”

Another family member said the community has been plunged into a state of mourning, with residents struggling to cope with uncertainty.

“Our hearts are heavy every day,” the resident said. “We don’t know whether our people are alive or dead. We are begging the government to do something because we cannot continue living like this.”

The relative added that many families are beginning to lose hope

“We are losing hope because nobody is telling us anything. The government is silent, and the terrorists are silent too,” the source lamented. “We are afraid that some of our people might have died in their den.”

SaharaReporters had earlier reported that suspected Boko Haram terrorists, formally known as Jama’atu Ahlissunnah Lidda’awati wal-Jihad, released a disturbing video in which they paraded 176 abducted victims, including women, children and a nursing mother allegedly seized from Woro community.

In the video, one of the terrorists was seen interrogating the captives and asking them to state where they were kidnapped.

Responding in Hausa language, three women, including a nursing mother, said they were abducted from Woro community in Kaiama Local Government Area of Kwara State.

The footage showed dozens of women and children standing in rows, many of them visibly distressed.

Their clothes appeared dirty and worn, while several children were seen without trousers, highlighting the harsh conditions under which they were being held.

While parading the victims, one of the terrorists openly accused the Kwara State government of misleading Nigerians and the international community over the scale of the abductions.

According to the terrorist in the video, the state government falsely claimed that only between 20 and 30 people were kidnapped, insisting instead that the number of captives in their custody stood at 176.

“The Kwara State government lied to Nigeria and to the whole world,” the terrorist alleged in the footage.

The video sparked widespread concern about the deteriorating security situation in Kaiama Local Government Area and other parts of Kwara North, where residents say communities remain vulnerable to attacks by armed groups operating across the state.

Responding, the Kwara State Government, said it was deeply concerned on the disturbing video released by terrorists.

“As always, our thoughts are with all the families affected, and we reaffirm our commitment to securing the safe return of all those impacted,” the state government stated in a statement issued by the State Commissioner for Communications, Bolanle Olukoju.

The government said it acknowledged the anxiety that this footage might cause but declared that government officials and security agencies were carefully analysing the video to establish the identities of the individuals shown.

As of the time of filing this report, the Kwara State Government had not publicly communicated any progress made so far towards rescuing these abductees. 

The latest fears expressed by families come weeks after SaharaReporters reported the initial massacre and mass abduction that rocked the quiet agrarian community.

On February 3, 2026, SaharaReporters reported that dozens of people were brutally killed following a coordinated and deadly attack by suspected Sahel-backed terrorists on Woro community.

Among those killed during the bloody assault were two wives of the Emir of Woro, several of his children, the Chief Imam of Woro, a school principal, a headmistress and students who had just returned home from school.

The attackers reportedly stormed the community on a Tuesday evening, killing indiscriminately and attacking residents and travellers passing through the area.

Source: SaharaReporters

2027: Coordinator of Tinubu’s Support Group, Williams Akporeha throws weight behind President’s re-election

One of the impressively large support groups for President Bola Ahmed Tinubu’s reelection which was recently unveiled in Abuja, known as Working People United, (WoPU) for good governance has reechoed its unwavering loyalty and support for the President ahead 2027 presidential poll.

The civil society-driven initiative aims to promote transparency, accountability, and people-centered leadership in governance. Formed by workers across multiple sectors, the movement seeks to ensure that governance delivers measurable impacts on citizens’ welfare, job security, and economic stability.

It also emphasizes the importance of fair wages, social protection, sustainable development, and responsible management of public resources. The movement also advocates for reforms that ensure governance structures serve the broader public interest rather than sectional or personal agendas.

Its coordinator, a foremost unionist, grassroots mobilizer and community leader, Comrade Williams Eniredonana Akporeha on behalf of the group revalidated it’s pledge for Mr. President who will be flying the flag of the All Progressives Congress (APC) in the coming year.

This reassurance was contained in a statement signed by Akporeha on Thursday.

He said, “Mr President, we assure you of our full and unwavering support for you, your administration, and your party, the APC, which remains our hope, our pride, and the formidable platform to sustain Nigeria’s gains and secure the future,” Akporeha said.

The statement continues, “Mr. President, you undoubtedly posses the spirit of cohesion, inclusivity, unity and purpose, with a commitment to take Nigeria back to its place of pride in every sphere of life, not mere political assemblage.

“Your Excellency Sir, through a genuine and patriotic zeal, you conceptualized and built the foundation for the Renewed Hope agenda, a pragmatic, scientific, and rewarding blueprint for national restoration. Your economic reforms, policies and programmes especially in the petroleum sector are quite rewarding and commendable by the entire stakeholders in that value chain. This is not just a slogan but a vision we are committed to, ensuring the success of you and your party an ultimate and landslide victory in 2027.

“Without mincing words, your people-friendly government has given Nigerians more hope and reasons to believe in our future as a nation, than we have ever had at any time in our history.

“For many years, we were led down dark paths by a misguided few and today, everything is being done to reverse that distasteful, disgraceful, and obnoxious phase in our democracy. Thank you Mr. President for changing the national trajectory positively.

“To be honest, good governance cannot possibly happen overnight, not even in four years. Thus, we want to call on Nigerians to get behind the president and vote him into office come 2027.

“We therefore issue a rallying cry to every Nigerian man, woman and youth to support President Bola Ahmed Tinubu’s reelection for 2027.

“While commending you and your government for promoting peace and unity despite the challenges you inherited, we urge you not to relent in ensuring security in every part of the country. To sustain the policies and reforms already in place, we are with you in principle and purpose. May God continue to grant you strength, wisdom, and protection to lead this nation to the promised land.

“On behalf of all of us at Working People United, we thank you for being a true nationalist who mean well for his fatherland. Our loyalty and commitment to you and your government are irrevocable. You truly share a vision for a Nigeria built on discipline, justice, economic sovereignty, and responsible governance these and many more are your laudable and enviable credentials that will make your reelection realistic and sustainable,” Akporeha said.

The Working People United, (WoPU) has gained support from union leaders, including those in the oil and gas sector, and has announced additional processes, projects, and strategic initiatives to strengthen democratic accountability and inclusive development in Nigeria.

Thirty Years Later: When will the NBA trust a woman to lead again?

By Mojirayo Ogunlana

The 8th of March was the International Women’s Day.

What usually takes place on this day annually, are speeches, panel discussions, webinars, photo ops, purple ribbons on black jackets, and all the usual ceremonies.

Rhetoric and rhetoric without definitive actions. The use of sugarcoated words and expressions at activities designed to disseminate the usual adjectives – strength, resilience, inclusion, empowerment; and while all these activities are recorded in advancing the rights of women, it is very important for the Nigerian Bar Association to do something less ceremonial. It’s time it read its own record on women leadership.

The fact is that the NBA record on women leadership of the Bar is but a dot of an entire page.

Dame Priscilla Kuye is often referred to as one woman who led the Bar when she served as the President of the Nigerian Bar Association from 1991 to 1992. More than three decades later, she remains the first and only woman to hold that office. In fact, Dame Kuye only came into that office because the President at that time, Chief Clement Akpamgbo, SAN, was appointed the Attorney General of the Federation.

Dame Kuye was not the first of many, she was the first, and still the only woman to occupy that office till date.

This year, the theme of the International Women’s Day reads -“Rights. Justice. Action. For ALL Women and Girls”

For a profession which stands for justice, equity and fairness , one wonders what equity looks like after thirty years of male leadership of the Bar.

Over the years, the usual complaints have been that there is a shortage of women to take up political positions, but today, no sincere person can say that the problem is a shortage of qualified women. Women at the Bar have long supplied the proof that not only are they qualified , but they are capable of leading and they are willing to serve the largest Bar in Africa. Women have built chambers, argued appeals, chaired committees, taught students, mentored young lawyers, and held Branches together when the applause had gone elsewhere. Women have led Bar associations in other climes, and even within the Nigerian legal profession, women now lead important Sections and Branches.

At this point in history, the Nigerian Bar is not being asked to attempt some dangerous Constitutional experiment. What it is simply being asked to do, is to stop treating female leadership as though it were a novelty too fragile to survive contact with power.

It’s high time we gave the women at the Bar their long awaited flowers and the time for this is now!

Women have done the work. They have shown up. They have paid the price.

However, they have not often been given the final ‘go ahead’. As it’s usually a thing of endorsement more than qualification.

We now know it’s not an issue of merit. The simple question is whether the Bar is ready to allow the leadership it has professed is needed.

I remember clearly how I felt standing before the wall of past Presidents of the Nigerian Bar Association and only one woman was displayed amongst the sea of men. It was truly uncomfortable. I felt small and irrelevant in a profession that advocates for equality and fairness. While the larger society discusses what it means for Nigerian women to be provided reserved seats at the National Assembly, it would be a good sign if the Nigerian Bar took the Bull by the Horns to show our Legislators that women are not figurines expected to decorate our discussion tables, but that they are capable of heading that table.

A profession may preach equality all it likes, but if its own highest office keeps returning to one familiar sex, then it would seem it suffers from a dissonance.

This is why Dame Priscilla Kuye’s historical place is both inspiring and uncomfortable. Institutions often know how to honour breakthroughs they do not intend to repeat or make a norm. They turn pioneers into portraits. They celebrate them, quote them, and keep them safely in memory.

The praise sounds generous.

Its real function is containment.

The first woman is admired so that the second can wait.

That is not honour. That is a delay with good manners.

The true way to honour Dame Priscilla Kuye while she’s still here with us, is not to keep admiring her uniqueness. It is to show her that many can follow in her steps.

This is not a case of charity. It is not an argument for tokenism. It is not a plea to lower standards for the sake of the moment. It is simply an argument for sincerity. Is the Bar sincere enough to allow a female lead? Is the Egbe Amofin ready to give grounds for a woman to lead as it is well known in Yoruba history that women led and were proud leaders until colonial infiltration of our long respected cultures and traditions.

If the Bar truly believes what it says about fairness, it should have the courage to apply that principle to itself.

A woman President of the Nigerian Bar Association would not diminish the office. She would show every young woman stepping into the profession that the highest office is an attainable goal with hard work and commitment to the Bar.

She would show younger men that leadership is not a hereditary male title passed quietly from hand to hand under the table of custom.

There is no better time as now for the Nigerian Bar Association to stand out proudly to set the example for the Nigerian society at large, by pulling its full weight behind a woman.

As the world continues to reflect on the International Women’s Day, the NBA should take a more proactive step. It should stop praising women for carrying the profession and finally entrust her with the leadership of the Bar.

The NBA has qualified, capable, and visionary women ready to serve.

The question is no longer whether they exist. The question is not whether they are qualified or capable.

The question is whether the Bar is ready to move from rhetoric to reality.

Mojirayo Ogunlana
Digital, Gender and Media Rights Advocate

The views expressed by contributors are strictly personal and not of Law & Society Magazine.

British Airways pilot arrested over claims he secretly filmed women during sex

A pilot working for British Airways has been accused of secretly recording intimate encounters with multiple women and allegedly uploading the videos online without their consent.

According to reports, the 31-year-old pilot was arrested by authorities in the United Kingdom last week after several women came forward claiming they had been secretly filmed during private meetings with him in hotel rooms around the world.

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One of the alleged victims said she only discovered the recordings after another woman contacted her with similar claims. 


“I was being recorded during sexual encounters without my consent,” the woman said, adding that the pilot would often place a laptop nearby with music playing and the screen turned off during their meetings.

She later learned that the footage had allegedly been uploaded to adult websites and that several other women had experienced the same situation. 


Sources said some flight attendants had begun warning one another about the pilot’s behavior after suspicions grew.

Another woman reportedly discovered multiple videos on the suspect’s laptop showing different women in separate hotel rooms. Some of the women allegedly appeared to be wearing uniforms from other airlines, including Virgin Atlantic.

The alleged victims, whose ages range from 24 to 36, reported the matter to the Metropolitan Police, which launched an investigation. 

Authorities arrested the pilot on March 5 on suspicion of voyeurism. Police later confirmed he had been released on bail while investigations continue. 

The airline has reportedly suspended the pilot from duty while the inquiry is ongoing. Sources also claimed he is being investigated over alleged cocaine use.

British Airways has not publicly released the pilot’s identity as the investigation remains active.
 

Nigeria’s Electoral Reform Row: Akpabio shrugs off opposition fury as ‘proof’ Senate is right

Nigeria’s Senate President Godswill Akpabio has ignited fresh political controversy after declaring that criticism from opposition parties over legislation passed by the Nigerian Senate only reassures him that lawmakers have made the right decisions.

Akpabio made the remarks in Uyo, the capital of Akwa Ibom State, while addressing guests during a reception organized in honour of Nigeria’s First Lady, Oluremi Tinubu.

“Each time we make a law and the opposition frowns, I get excited that I’ve made the right law,” Akpabio said.

The statement has triggered renewed debate over whether Nigeria’s recent legislative reforms are strengthening democratic institutions or deepening political divisions ahead of the 2027 general elections.

Boycott Threats and Political Tensions

Akpabio also dismissed threats by some opposition figures who have suggested that they may boycott the next presidential election due to concerns over amendments to the country’s electoral framework.

Referring to televised criticism of the new legislation, he argued that such threats merely indicate a lack of preparedness among those making them.

“Yesterday I saw one man shouting on TV because of the amended Electoral Act, saying we’re likely to boycott elections,” Akpabio said.

“My response was: tell the truth—you’re boycotting the elections because you’re not ready. If you are ready you won’t boycott.”

The remarks come as political tensions intensify over the Electoral Act 2026, which was signed into law earlier this year by President Bola Ahmed Tinubu.

The Clause 60 Dispute

At the centre of the controversy is Clause 60 of the amended law, which governs the transmission of election results from polling units to the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) portal known as the **INEC Result Viewing Portal (IReV).

The law formally recognizes electronic transmission of results but allows election officials to revert to manual processes if technological systems fail.

Critics say that fallback provision could reopen the door to manipulation of election results.

Civil society organizations, including Yiaga Africa, have warned that allowing manual result sheets—specifically the Form EC8A used at polling units—to override digital records in cases of communication failure may undermine transparency.

The concern stems partly from Nigeria’s electoral history, where disputes over manual result collation have frequently triggered allegations of vote tampering.

Removal of “Real-Time” Transmission

Another flashpoint in the debate is the removal of the phrase “real-time transmission” from the legal text of the amendment.

Earlier proposals supported by the House of Representatives required election results to be uploaded immediately from polling units while party agents and observers were still present.

However, the Senate’s final version replaced that requirement with language allowing the electoral commission flexibility to determine how electronic transmission should occur.

Supporters of the change argue that rigid real-time requirements could create logistical challenges in rural areas with poor internet connectivity.

Critics counter that removing the provision weakens a key safeguard intended to prevent manipulation during result collation.

Lessons From the 2023 Elections

The debate over electronic transmission of results has lingered since the 2023 Nigerian general election, when several election disputes reached the courts.

Judicial rulings at the time held that electronic transmission was not explicitly mandated under Nigerian law, meaning paper result sheets remained the legally binding evidence in election litigation.

Opponents of the new amendment warn that the latest changes could reinforce that legal interpretation, allowing manual records to take precedence over digital systems whenever technological failures are cited.

Budget Questions Add to Senate Scrutiny

The controversy surrounding electoral reforms is unfolding alongside criticism of recent fiscal decisions by the Senate.

In an unusual legislative development, lawmakers allowed the 2024, 2025, and 2026 federal budgets to operate simultaneously through repeated extensions of capital expenditure deadlines.

The capital component of the 2024 budget was extended until December 31, 2025, while supplementary appropriations were introduced during the same period.

Meanwhile, significant revenue shortfalls, only about ₦10 trillion realized from an estimated ₦40 trillion projection for 2025, forced the government to roll over nearly 70 percent of capital projects into the 2026 budget cycle.

The 2025 Appropriation Act was subsequently re-enacted with a sunset clause extending project implementation into March 2026, effectively aligning it with the 2026 fiscal year.

A Defining Political Battle Ahead

With Nigeria’s next general election still more than a year away, the controversy over the Electoral Act is already shaping the country’s political landscape.

For critics, the debate raises concerns about whether electoral safeguards are being weakened at a crucial moment.

For supporters of the amendment, the changes simply reflect pragmatic adjustments designed to address technological limitations across a vast and unevenly connected country.

Either way, Akpabio’s remarks, and the sharp reactions they have triggered, underscore how deeply contested Nigeria’s electoral future remains as the nation edges closer to the 2027 vote.

Abuja doctor arraigned over IVF fraud and sale of couple’s embryos

An Abuja-based medical doctor, John Abebe, has been arraigned before a High Court of the Federal Capital Territory (FCT), Jabi, over fraudulent acts and criminal conspiracy.

54-year-old Abebe, who is reportedly a pastor at Living Faith Church in Durumi, Abuja, was arraigned on Wednesday, March 11, 2026 along with his hospital, Joje Abebe Hospital Limited, on three counts of fraud, criminal conspiracy, unlawful disclosure of confidential medical records, and alleged sale of a couple’s embryos.

The doctor was accused of unlawfully releasing the confidential medical records of Mrs Mary Manga and her husband to the public without her consent, in contravention of Section 29 of the National Health Act 2014.

In addition to the alleged breach of medical confidentiality, prosecutors claim that between January and May 2025, Abebe, described as a Chief Consultant Obstetrician and Gynaecologist (O&G), deceived and defrauded the couple of N19 million under the pretext of being a specialist in In Vitro Fertilisation (IVF).

The prosecution claimed that he collected the money for treatment and converted it to personal use, an offence punishable under Section 1 of the Advance Fee Fraud and Other Related Offences Act, 2006.

It was also alleged that the doctor sold the couple’s fully developed embryos to other patients, a development that, if proven, could mark one of the most scandalous fertility-related cases in the country’s recent history.

When the charges were read to him, Abebe and JojeAbebe Hospital Limited pleaded not guilty.

His counsel, Marvin Omorogbe, applied for his bail, which was not opposed by the prosecuting counsel, Joseph Wada.

Consequently, Justice A. A. Fashola granted Abebe bail in the tune of N5 million with a reliable surety in like sum, who must be a professional working with a responsible and verifiable organisation, and adjourned to April 2, 2026, for the commencement of trial. 

Facts your son needs to know about handling a woman, By Bunmi Sofola

As enlightened as the society is and with information technology at the finger tips of almost every-one, parents still find it difficult to discuss sex with their adult children, and most youths don’t have that much clue as to what is right and what is wrong.  So, from the etiquette of the first date to how to dump a girl ‘nicely’ here is every-thing you need to know about how the opposite sex should treat a woman – and be treated by a woman.

It is impossible to ‘Just be friends’ after you break up with a girl.  Any girl who claims she wants to do this is a coward or a liar.  She just can’t handle the guilt of dumping you and wants to do it by stages.  She is probably hoping she can keep you on the ‘maybe’ pile for a while, in case her new bloke or her spell of being single and fancy free, doesn’t work out, and she finds herself at a lose end on a Saturday night.  If an ex girlfriend says ‘let’s be friends’ go out with your real friends and delete her number from your phone – immediately.

Be nice to your sisters.  In my experience, the men who have the most success with women tend to have sisters.  They are the ones who ‘get’ women.  The biggest flirts are usually brothers with lots of sisters – no matter how ordinary-looking they are.  So practise your toasting skills on your sisters!  If you don’t have any, adopt one or two!

One fact you need to urgently get used to is that girls like to shop.  If you don’t like it, don’t tag along.  Don’t insist on joining your girlfriend because you have a few bits and pieces to pick up from the shops, only for you to stand around, huffing and puffing outside changing rooms and bleating as if she’s ruined your life.  The nurturing predator’s lust for a bargain is wired into the female DNA, so let her hunt.  And if she doesn’t broadcast the cost of things, don’t ask, especially if it’s her money she’s spending.

Girls have these things called hormones.  Men have them too but girls’ ones are different.  When you live with a woman, once a month, it may seem as if you can do nothing right.  That is because you can’t.  Girls’ reaction to normal life events can be excessive and skewed, but it is your job to pretend not to notice and take the blame any way.  Do it quietly.  Never argue, and don’t for God’s sake ever ask: “Are your hormones playing up again?” when you are being screamed at.  Your girl knows she’s being irrational, just let her make it up to you in her own way.  Normally, this tactic pays very-good dividends.

Now the big question:  Who pays?  This is tricky, but if you’ve followed the advice given so far and have gotten yourself a nice, bright, independent girl, with a decent dose of self-worth, you should be ok.  On a first date, yes, you should pay.  Particularly if you’ve invited her out, and you really like her.  Second date, she should return the favour or you should split the bill.  A girl who expects you to pay for every-thing on every-date is not worthy of you.

But what if you earn much more than she does?  You need to agree with her what she can chip in from time to time.  You’re not her personal ATM!  Bathroom habits could also be a problem.  An upturned toilet seat isn’t that much of a big deal to be honest.  But what happens to an inconsiderate man that leaves the seat all wet?  It’s no fun seating on toilet covered in wee.

Keep an eye on that girl that your mates label a geek.  The girl who seems to excel in maths and scales through all the exams might not know the latest dance steps, and thinks whiz kid is a magician’s name.  She is what is known as a slow-starter.  Accepted, the boys aren’t exactly falling over themselves to date her, but one day, she’s going to earn a lot of money, wear some beautiful clothes, drive a fantastic car and impress and entertain you enormously.  She’s going to be sexy eventually, believe me.  Get to know her now so you could reap the benefits later.

There comes a time in a relationship where breaking up is inevitable.  It is another one of life’s obstacles.  Sometimes relationships just reach their sell-by date.  Sometimes, you may meet someone you like more.  Don’t beat yourself up about it.  It is rare for someone to go through life and not experience the pain of being dumped or the discomfort of ending a relationship yourself.  How you navigate this minefield? however will define you as a man.  Don’t cheat, or if there is an ‘overlap’ keep it very brief and discreet.  Tell her face-to-face but in a place from which you can escape easily in case she turns nasty.  And tell her the truth.  “You’re too good for me,” is cowardly, so is: “It’s not you, it’s me.”  Telling her:  “I don’t want to be your boyfriend any more, I’m not happy and I don’t like you enough” is harsh, but it does the trick.  Then avoid her.  She will get over you more quickly if she doesn’t see you and you will avoid painful, pleading 3 am calls.

Be a good time-keeper and do not accept bad time-keeping in others pleading ‘African Time’ is not a good enough excuse when you’ve been sitting in a restaurant or bar waiting for your date to arrive.  A girl who keeps you waiting for more than 15 minutes because she lost track of time, needs to be taught a lesson in manners, so leave immediately.  No one ‘loses track of time’ when they’re going to meet someone they really like.

Learn to cook-boiled rice or make a well prepared eba and simple meat stew will serve you well, just to prove a point you could throw something together when need be.  And never wear an apron.  No matter how much booze is consumed, the image of a man in a butcher’s apron, with a cooking spoon in hand, tends to get stuck in a girl’s mind.

Whatever you do, don’t let go of your male friends, girls like a popular guy, and a loyal one too.  A man’s night out without your girl friend now and then is entirely acceptable and healthy, and don’t let her nag you into thinking otherwise.  Just don’t come home with another woman’s phone number written on your hand.

And whatever you do, don’t pay too much attention to her friends.  You have no idea what trouble you’ll get into if you flirt with any of her friends.  So don’t do it. Ever.

Now and then, you will walk into a room and find out your girlfriend has fouled up the atmosphere.  Naturally, you’re going to ask what is wrong.  There will be two possible responses to this question – ‘Nothing’ or “I’m fine”.  You may, understandably take her at her words and assume there is indeed nothing wrong and she is in fact fine.  You could not be more wrong.  These two words are actually openers in a game called: “Let’s Try To Guess What’s Wrong With Me,” and how you play this game, again, will define you as a man.  Do not refuse to play.  You should take the time to try to work out whatever it is you have done wrong, for you have surely done something.  Discreet probing is what is required, and most definitely, not a constant badgering for an answer.  Ring her best friend or closed colleague on the quiet, for surely, if someone has the full story on what a heartless, thoughtless, hopeless so-and-so you are, it is she.  Good luck with mastering this game – you will become a veteran of it over a long relationship and may become the primary player one day.  Humour is also a valuable tool for thawing the atmosphere once the source has been identified – as is a box of chocolate.

not perfect.  Do not recoil in horror if your girlfriend occasionally lets standard slip.  The fact that she trusts you with her not-yet-packaged self is a compliment.

A woman’s weight is another land mine, and very few men can boast of success here.  This is the only area of your relationship where I would advocate downright deceit.  If a woman asks if she’s looking fat – and she is – you must never say so.  “I love you just the way you are:” doesn’t work either, for she could take it to mean “yes, you’re a bit of a fatty but you’re a jolly sort, so I’ll put up with it because I’m lazy to look else where.”  So, lie, lie and lie again!

Text, call, tweet, whatsApp or whatever it is you do about once a day.  More than that feels as if you could be stalking her.  Less, and a girl can feel ignored. So, strike the right balance.  Any girl receiving her 15th ‘What’s up, what are you doing,’ in one evening is going to start looking for an exit strategy.

By the way, hand-holding is a lovely thing.  The casual, slipping of her hand in yours when strolling along is so simple, yet feels so companionable and gentlemanly.  Be brave and do it in company.  Do not drop her hand in the street when you see your friends approach or she will drop you.

If you take all today’s tips about how to handle your woman on board and set out to be the thoughtful, kind and considerate young man you’re meant to be, a girl will be lucky to have you in her life.  But it also works both ways.  Any girl not putting the same amount of effort into the relationship is not worth your time.  Do not sell yourself too cheaply.

Shout It From The Roof Top  (Humour)

An old man stumbles into a confessional.  “Father!” he shouts, “I’m an 81-year-old man and last night I made love to two 19-year-old twins!”  “Well,” the priest replies, “are you married?  Have you committed adultery?”  “No Father,” the old may says.  “My wife passed away several years ago.”

“Have you remarried, my son?” asks the priest.  “No, Father,” the old man replies.  “You’re a Catholic?” the priest asks.  “No,” the aged Lotherio replies, “I don’t believe in religion.  “Well,” says the priest, “Why on earth did you feel the need to come and tell me?”  “If you’d slept with two 19-year-old twins,” the old git answered, “wouldn’t you be telling everyone?”

Fatal Beauty Fix: Socialite dies after butt enlargement as Lagos opens probe

The Lagos State Government has commenced an investigation into the reported death of a Lagos socialite popularly known as “Elena”, who allegedly died after undergoing a Brazilian Butt Lift cosmetic procedure, popularly known as BBL, at an unnamed clinic in the state.

PUNCH Online reports that a buttock enlargement procedure is a cosmetic surgery that involves removing fat from other parts of the body and injecting it into the buttocks to achieve a rounder and fuller shape.

The probe is being conducted through the Health Facilities Monitoring and Accreditation Agency, the regulatory body responsible for monitoring and accrediting health facilities in Lagos.

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In a statement issued on Thursday by the Permanent Secretary, Health Facilities Monitoring and Accreditation Agency, Abiola Idowu, the government said the investigation followed reports circulating on social media alleging that the woman developed complications after the aesthetic procedure.

The statement noted that the complications were reported to have occurred during or shortly after the surgery.

“The Lagos State Government, through the Health Facilities Monitoring and Accreditation Agency (HEFAMAA), has commenced a full investigation into the reported death of a Lagos socialite popularly known as ‘Elena,’ who allegedly died after undergoing a Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL) cosmetic procedure at a clinic in the state.

“The development follows reports circulating on social media alleging that the young woman developed complications after the aesthetic procedure, which reportedly occurred either during or shortly after the surgery.

“While details of the incident are still being verified, the State Government has assured the public that a thorough, professional, and transparent investigation has been initiated to determine the circumstances surrounding the unfortunate event”, the statement partly read.

The agency disclosed that preliminary findings indicated the clinic where the procedure reportedly took place is registered with the regulatory agency, but stressed that registration does not shield any facility from investigation when patient safety concerns arise.

The statement continued, “Preliminary information indicates that the clinic where the procedure reportedly took place is registered with HEFAMAA.

“However, the agency notes that registration does not preclude any facility from regulatory scrutiny, particularly when incidents involving patient safety are reported.

“As the statutory regulatory body responsible for monitoring, licensing, and accrediting healthcare facilities in Lagos State, HEFAMAA ensures that all health facilities comply with established operational standards, professional guidelines, and patient safety protocols.”

According to the statement, aesthetic and cosmetic surgical procedures in Lagos are governed by clearly defined regulatory standards covering facility requirements, practitioner qualifications and patient safety measures.

“The agency reiterates that aesthetic and cosmetic surgical procedures are governed by clearly defined regulatory standards in Lagos State.

“These standards include requirements relating to facility infrastructure, practitioner qualifications, infection prevention and control protocols, patient consent procedures, anaesthetic safety, and emergency response capacity”, the agency added.

It added that the agency had begun a comprehensive review of the incident to determine whether the clinic and medical personnel complied with existing regulations.

“Consequently, HEFAMAA has commenced a comprehensive review of the incident, including an assessment of compliance with regulatory standards, verification of the professional credentials of the medical personnel involved, and evaluation of the level of care provided to the patient before, during, and after the procedure”, the statement further stated.

The agency urged the public to remain calm and refrain from spreading unverified information that could undermine the investigation.

It also advised residents seeking cosmetic procedures to ensure they patronise only accredited health facilities and qualified medical practitioners.

“Members of the public are therefore urged to remain calm and avoid spreading unverified or speculative information that may compromise the integrity of the ongoing investigation.

“The Lagos State Government also advises residents seeking cosmetic or aesthetic procedures to exercise due diligence by ensuring that such services are obtained only from accredited health facilities and qualified medical practitioners with the requisite training and competence.”

The agency reaffirmed the government’s commitment to safeguarding the health and safety of residents through stricter regulatory oversight and enforcement of healthcare standards.

“The government remains firmly committed to protecting the health and safety of all residents through strengthened regulatory oversight, continuous monitoring of healthcare facilities, and strict enforcement of healthcare standards across the state.

“Further updates will be provided as the investigation progresses”, the agency concluded.

PUNCH Online reports that in August 2024, a 36-year-old woman identified only as Abiola died while undergoing a buttocks enlargement procedure at a clinic in the Lekki-Phase 1 area of Lagos State.https://punchng.com/lady-dies-during-buttock-enlargement-surgery-in-lagos/

How Nigeria’s SHETSCO paid N1.57bn in a day for fertilisers, food, giveaways instead of research

The Sheda Science and Technology Complex, Abuja (SHESTCO), spent N1.57 billion in a single day on road construction, the supply of fertilisers, drainage construction and other non-research projects outside its core mandate.

FIJ found that SHESTCO, a national high-technology research complex, made the N1.57 billion payment on February 15, 2025, to 16 different companies, with three payments of N94 million repeated to the last kobo.

Seven of the companies paid by the science and technology complex received over N131 million for construction-related activities.

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