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Plateau Guber Jgt: Lawyers differ on whether Appeal Court favoured legislators should be recognised

In view of the  Supreme Court judgment that lampooned the Court of Appeal’s decision which led to the removal of 16 members of Plateau State House of Assembly elected under the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP), and Gabriel Dewan, the House of Assembly Speaker’s statement that he will not recognise the APC legislators favoured by the Penultimate court, lawyers are calling on the National Judicial Council (NJC) to sanction the judges whose verdict have been described as: “rogue, procured and perverse.” But they also have different opinions on whether the court favoured legislators should now be recognised or not.

First, Senior Advocate of Nigeria, Jibrin Samuel Okutepa noted that: “As it is today, any member of the National Assembly and State Houses of Assembly whose election has been nullified on the grounds that the appeal the governor of Plateau State was allowed today stood no chance of immediate remedy as there is no further right of appeal. The decisions of the Court of Appeal in the parliamentary election petitions appeal to it, it being the final court has inflicted monumental injuries to the sovereignty of the people.”

Okutepa, SAN

Then Prof. Chidi Odinkalu, ex-Chair, National Human Rights Commission (NHRC) said: “Last Friday, the Supreme Court ruled that the Court of Appeal in Plateau was rogue, procured and perverse. It set aside the reasoning of the Court which denied the people their chosen representatives. But because the Court of Appeal is the final court in these matters, the decision of the Supreme Court is no remedy for the political ruin procured under the baleful influence of Monica Dongban-Mensem.”

Restating his position on the sack of the 16 PDP legislators which the Supreme Court described a miscarriage of justice in a WhatsApp chat, Odinkalu went further to say that he supports Speaker Gabriel Dewan’s position not to recognise the legislators whose electoral victory at the Court of Appeal.

Odinkalu

“I support it. It is my clear-headed position. We are not in normal times. Lawyers want to prescribe outdated idiocies for corruption that they wreak. And then protect it with silly doctrine that makes no sense. You guys say ubi jus ibi remedium. The people of the Plateau & the affected 23 legislators have jus… If you can’t find any remedium, then get out of the way & stop saying you will not support it. Tell us what remedy you have. There is no peace without justice!”

Likewise, Ogbu, Blessing Ekpere, Esq. said: “I support the Speaker’s position. Desperate times call for desperate measures. The judicial review may be knocked out on the ground of sui generis.”

Ekpere, Esq.

But Marvin Omorogbe, Esq held a different position. “I don’t think we should support this… Though the Court of Appeal’s judgment is manifestly perverse, it is unfortunately the final court for those cases. The only remedy is to petition NJC or even go back to the Court of Appeal or Supreme Court for a review.

Omorogbe, Esq

“We should not in good conscience support self help even in the face of a crooked judgment… I will not support self help and I don’t think anyone should support self help… I agree that those Judges from the Tribunal to the Court of Appeal should be booted out of the bench. All of them. But there must be certainty of legal consequences, whether judgment was rightly or wrong delivered… Refusing to recognise the lawmakers wrongly affirmed by the C o A is not a remedy in this case. It is self help and the consequences may even be worse than the perverse Court of Appeal judgment.”

In response, Odinkalu said: “And you think the injustice that Okon Abang & Co have done in Plateau will guarantee peace, ko? The guy said the obvious. He does not need my support: they are illegitimate. That is absolutely as accurate. Which part of that needs translation? They lost the election; they were installed by a corrupt judicial decision instructed by Dongban-Mensem. But that is no remedy. NJC cannot reinstate their mandates. In 2004, Ugochukwu Uba bought 2 JCAs in Enugu to steal Nicholas Ukachukwu’s seat in Anambra South. He served out his tenure as Senator notwithstanding that the 2 JCAs were fired in 2005.”

“Leaning into the conversation, Obioma Ezenwobodo, Esq., Managing Partner, Resolution Attorneys, Abuja said: “The judgement of the apex court regarding Plateau State elections is a welcome development as it has restored hope to the judiciary once more.

“The issue of who is a candidate of a political party is an internal party matter that the court is deprived on jurisdiction to mediate. Moreover, the issue of qualification of a candidate is a preelection issue that should be litigated before a state high court or the federal high court but not at the election tribunals. This mess are elementary principles of our election jurisprudence and anything outside it is perverse and cannot be deemed to be a mistake. It is a bigger embarrassment to our judiciary and justice system.

Ezenwobodo, Esq.

“In law, the Latin maxim Ubi jus, ibi remedium – meaning ‘where there is a right, there is a remedy’ still holds sway but unfortunately, we’re dealing with electoral jurisprudence which is sui generis and by its nature, all the matters of PDP elected legislators in Plateau State ended at the Court of Appeal. In other words, the Court of Appeal is the final court of litigation on their matters. The implication is that an incalculable injustice has been done to them through instrumentality of the law. They have a right but the law did not provide any remedy to them.

“Based on this judicial faux pas, it will not be out of place to impose sanctions via the instrumentality of the NJC of the justices involved. The system must be sanitized for us to have a decent democracy and progress thereon.”

Thierry Henry recounts how he battled depression throughout career

The popular and legendary Arsenal and France soccer star, Thierry Henry, has told the story of how he suffered with depression all through his stellar playing career.

Henry, 46, who won the World Cup with France and is Arsenal’s all-time top goalscorer, told the Diary of a CEO podcast that the coronavirus pandemic made him appreciate his mental health struggles as he cried “almost every day”.

The Arsenal legend has linked that to his past and a search for approval from his father, who was often critical of his performances as a young player.

He said: “Throughout my career, and since I was born, I must have been in depression.

“Did I know it? No. Did I do something about it? No. But I adapted to a certain way. That doesn’t mean I’m walking straight, but I’m walking. You’ve got to put one foot (forward) and another one, and walk. That’s what I’ve been told since I’m young.

“I never stopped walking, then maybe I would have realised. (But during) Covid – I stopped walking. I couldn’t. Then you start to realise.”

Henry was in charge of Canadian side Montral Impact when the pandemic hit, leaving him isolated and on the other side of the world from his family.

He added: “I was in isolation in Montreal, and not being able to see my kids for a year was tough.

“Tears were coming alone. Why I don’t know, but maybe they were there for a very long time.

“Technically, it wasn’t me, it was the young me. Crying for everything he didn’t get, approval.”

Henry, who is now coach of France’s under-21 team, said his father’s desire was for him to be “an amazing football player” from the moment he first held his son.

Henry said: “As a little boy it was always ‘you didn’t do that well’. So obviously when you hear that more often than not, that’s what’s going to stay’.

“It did to a degree help the athlete. It didn’t help so much the human being.”

The Conclave

BBC Documentary: Superstitions, manipulations and fake miracles

By Richard Odusanya

In our highly pluralistic society, superstition is not easy to define. One person’s superstition may be another person’s religion. But for the sake of discussion, let’s say that superstition is characterized by techniques and expectations that are not scientifically provable (or falsifiable) and apt to be regarded by many as irrational. Let’s add that a superstition is a human attempt to control the uncontrollable, to manipulate chaos, and produce a favorable outcome.

Superstition is born of ignorance and, fear, and thrives the most when reason is asleep. This is similar to the words of Oluseun Anikulapo Kuti, a Nigerian musician, singer, and the youngest son of Afrobeat pioneer Fela Kuti. Seun remarked as follows: “No Nigerian pastor has ever performed a real miracle. They are all faking it. All the General Overseer pastors are guilty of the same offenses BBC has accused TB Joshua of. Now the real World for ‘rape’ is TBJ”. Can I fault  Seun’s position, capital NO! Because a mind controlled by the region is a lost mind.

Similarly, the Vanguard end-of-the-year editorial piece of December 22, 2023, vindicated some of us. Prayers haven’t helped any country and it wouldn’t start with Africa specifically Nigeria. When a country fails to do what’s expected and results in nonsense and jamboree praying exercises, then prayers indeed become a scam and continue being a scam until the dynamics are changed to the fundamentals of economic growth and development.

Sadly, we are just crazy over nothing! Religion as a garment of deceit has done more harm than good. “Religion does three things effectively: divides people, controls people, and deludes people “- Mary Alice Mickinny. Spiritual abuse is the real thing that is sufficiently established in the BBC exposé. Therefore, Attention should be on those who are still alive, using God to manipulate people.

They’re using God’s name to cover their evil and criminal acts. This is an in-depth analysis that I secured permission to share. Please find below a friend’s personal experience:

Yours sincerely was also used for a staged miracle in TB Joshua’s Church. It was a terrible experience.

Me: TELL ME ABOUT IT.

I was 21 years at the time when my leg issues started. We had been to the hospitals, but nothing was improving. This time our medical system wasn’t so advanced as it is now. About my legs, I still managed to walk unaided then, but from the way I walked, you could see there was a problem. Someone introduced us to TB Joshua’s church. Before then we were also seeing the miracles on TV. So, I told my family I wanted to go for healing. 

We made the arrangement and that was how I woke up early to the church one morning. When we got there I saw people with different illnesses all lined up outside to see Joshua. Again it was not so easy to have Joshua attend to you personally,  his foot soldiers were there to direct people. My ex-boy friend’s dad was a staunch member, with his help, they began to attend to me specially. They told me of what to and what not to eat and all.  

On the scheduled day of my healing, I was told to EXAGGERATE my condition, that if I do, no matter what I will surely get the healing I wanted. There were WHITE people there who interviewed me, I was told to tell them that I came that day and was about to meet Joshua. Whereas I had been going there for a while before the scheduled healing date. 

Facing the camera, I told them I have been on a 

WHEELCHAIR for 4 years, which was a LIE. I wasn’t using a WHEELCHAIR,  but I was made to seat on a WHEELCHAIR that day o. It was with a placard in my hands while I sat on a WHEELCHAIR were written “I CAN’T WALK.”  They said I should cry and shout “Man of God, help me.”Which I did. 

So Joshua came out, stretched his hands over me and asked me to stand up. [Remember my condition wasn’t so bad the way they made it look] so I stood up just like I used to do. And the congregation bursted into a wild JUBILATION as I walked into the church just like I was walking before, they raised the WHEELCHAIR and were jubilating. I was kind of amused.

I was told to stop all the medication I was taking for my condition. My situation got worse after I left that church, that’s the situation I am in till now, didn’t get the healing I wanted, I was used. 

ME: DO YOU HAVE THE VIDEO OF THIS?

It was shown on TV. They were the ones recording it. It was 2001. We had no camera phones then.

That was the conversation between a friend and one of the victims of religious bigotry and manipulation.

I could go on, but I’ll stop here. This is factually empirically incorrect that salvation comes in such forms. At the core,  I will find it difficult to disagree with one of the assertions that religion trades in DECEPTION and HYPOCRISY.

I daresay, unequivocally too, and with a very high sense of responsibility, that, it is time to act decisively. Therefore, the time has come for men of good Conscience, Regulatory Agencies, and the Federal Government to be brutally honest with each other for humanity’s sake and save our beloved country Nigeria from the activities of Marchants of faith that is rooted in subjugation, manipulation and spiritual fraud.

In conclusion, Karl Marx was more than right! “the soul of soulless conditions” or the “opium of the people”. According to Marx, religion in this world of exploitation is an expression of distress and at the same time, it is also a protest against the real distress. In other words, religion continues to survive because of oppressive social conditions.

Finally, with the BBC exposé, I just hope that, people who recklessly go in search of ’MIRACLES’ will learn from the madness and all the esoteric religion beliefs.

Richard Odusanya

[email protected]

Growing through criticism

‘If you accept correction, you will be honoured.’ Proverbs 13:18 NLT

Solomon said, ‘If you accept correction, you will be honoured.’ American author, Charlie Shedd gives us ten ways to grow through criticism:

1) Criticism is often a compliment. The barbs in daily life strike only those who raise their heads above ground level. Jesus said, ‘Blessed are you when people hate you, when they exclude you, insult you, and slander your name as evil because of the Son of Man’ (Luke 6:22 CSB).

2) Accept that you have faults that are open to censure. Stay humble, and criticism won’t rattle you.

3) Invite criticism from friends; then when it comes from your enemies, you will be broken in. ‘The words of the wicked lie in wait for blood, but the speech of the upright rescues them’ (Proverbs 12:6 NIV).

4) Let criticism make you better. When you burn with anger, you destroy the passport to your own improvement. ‘But when you do good and suffer, if you take it patiently, this is commendable before God’ (1 Peter 2:20 NKJV).

5) Some criticism should be ignored, especially if it stems from false motives. Never give unhappy people the key to your happiness.

6) Keep it in perspective. Don’t believe everybody has heard. Most people don’t care. One bad word doesn’t cancel out the good in you.

7) Let criticism make you kinder. Remind yourself that you have criticised others too. Is this a boomerang that started in your own heart?

8) Pray for your critics. It will improve them and neutralise your bitterness. Hate destroys your health and steals your happiness.

9) Check with the Master Critic. What does God say? How do things look deep in your soul?

10) When you have checked to make sure you’re right, move ahead. In quiet confidence finish what you started, because God’s promises are to those who endure (see Hebrews 6:12).

SoulFood: Exo 20:4-6 Deut 7:17 – 8:2 Isa 40:18-31 Col 3:5-10

The Word for Today is authored by Bob and Debby Gass and published under licence from UCB International Copyright 2024

NSPPD 21days fasting and prayer (Day 7 prayer points)

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DAY 7 PRAYER THEME: JOYFUL NEWS 

NSPPDIANS, What A Week… Next up is our DAY 7 Prayers themed JOYFUL NEWS!!! (Revelation 5, 8, 12:1-12, Psalm 2, Genesis 21:1-8, Psalm 126)

PRAY: 2024 is my time and my turn for joyful news! Whatsoever that diverted what was meant for me in previous years, break! I arise as the next testifier that What God cannot do does not exist! (Nahum 1:9)

My 2024 ended in praise! The wounds from yesteryears did not stop my joyful news! In the same places I was hurt/beaten/battered, I emerged stronger, better, greater, more victorious! Hallelujah! (Revelation 5, Hebrews 11:1)

In the order of Proverbs 23:18, My 2024 journey with Joyful news will not suddenly end, Any power that shall arise against my joyful news, break! Fire!

I WILL NOT BOW! Every wrong posture in my spirit/soul/body standing in the way of my joyful news in 2024, I break out! (John 5:35; Luke 13:13)

I belong to the Altar of Fire, God’s presence is here! By the hand of God, Whatever needs to enter for my joyful new to arrive, enter! Whatever must leave, get out by Fire! (Luke 13:13)

___(insert your name)___ as it was for Gideon, Let your Might be in motion! I am not afraid! Destinies are connected to me, I must be more! The presence of God is with me, His power is at work in me, every step I must take to arrive at the place of my joy, I arise! I move! (Judges 6:12-16,7)

I am Kingdom! Anointed with the Oil of gladness far above my fellows! I break limits, I cross the lines, I blaze trails! Lord by reason of your kingdom in me, That record that has never been broken in my family/my city/industry/nation/generation, through my life, Let it break! (Psalm 45:7)

I was created for His Pleasure! As I Live for Jesus, As I love The Lord and give him my all, Joy is my portion! Every design of man contradicting my divine purpose and causing me pain, I break Out! (Revelations 4:11, Ps 16:11, Numbers 22:23-31)

2024 is my year of MULTIPLES!!! Multiple Doors of Joyful News in my health, business/career/academics/ministry, family, finances, EPHPHATHA!!!! (Mark 7:34)

My Joyful news will not exist side by side with negativity, I will not rejoice and cry at the same time, I will not laugh and mourn, any door of pain that shall be opened in this season of my joyful news, I take a journey in the spirit, close by Fire!!! (Ecclesiastes 3:14-17, Proverbs 10:22)

Any crown sent to make me bleed, Not my head! My enthronement will not bring me pain! My blessings will not exist side by side with bitter tears! (John 19:2)

I redeem all my days in 2024 by the blood of Jesus! By the reason of the blood, I step into new realms of favor, I walk in a greater overflow, I celebrate back to back miracles that sound like lies – Joyful news everywhere! (Ephesians 5:16)

2024 hear me: Heaven is no longer silent! The siege is broken! For all the years i labored and endured in demonic quietness, let my joyful news erupt! Let it burst out! O GA DI LOUD!!!! (Revelation 8 )

I am a change agent! I arise as the Joy of my family/city/nation/generation! Wherever I show up, I give Beauty for ashes! The oil of joy for mourning! Laughter for pain! Garment of praise for sorrow! Christ in me : the hope of glory! (Isaiah 61:1)

In this season of Revival, I will not be left behind, I manifest the strange acts of God, I carry more miracles, I harvest mega testimonies, my life is an evidence of the Supernatural, I become that major proof that others will see and testify that indeed What God cannot do does not exist! (Psalm 126)

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Monica Dongban-Mensem: In God’s Name, Go!

By Chidi Anselm Odinkalu

Nearly one year after the country began voting in February last year, Nigeria’s Supreme Court is still casting the final votes in the 2023 elections. It has been a long, tortured and traumatic election season. First the people voted. Then the Independent National Election (INEC) decided what it announced as the results. By March last year, those two phases were done.

Since then, judges have been casting their own votes and the courts have been busy announcing their own results. Last Friday, the Supreme Court affirmed seven governors as duly elected. In the cases concerning Kano, Plateau, and Zamfara States, the court overturned the Court of Appeal which had sacked the governors. These governors ultimately survived because there was another instance after the Court of Appeal to which they could take their grievance. Many legislators, whose own cases must end at the Court of Appeal, were not so lucky.

Kano, Plateau, and Zamfara are three highly flammable theatres. The final verdicts in these cases saved the country a lot of needless bloodletting.

Plateau State has been the site of resilient atrocities for over three decades, since 1994. A vast number of inquiry reports into various massacres and atrocities in the state over this period attest to this.

For the past decade, Zamfara has competed with Borno State for the prize of the most prolific killing field in Nigeria.

Kano, the site of many eruptions since 1953, is the most densely populated state in Northern Nigeria and arguably also the country’s most politically volatile state.

It was not in dispute who got the highest votes in these states in the 2023 elections. But, following the vote by the people in March last year, the Court of Appeal under the direction of Judge President, Monica Dongban-Mensem, decided to alter the outcomes in these cauldrons with casual malevolence.

In Zamfara State, they purported to unseat the Governor but did him the favour of ordering a rerun in three Local Government Areas, which they voided. The court’s perverse reason for this was that “it was wrong for the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) to adopt results from the IReV, because IReV is not part of the collation system, but for viewing purposes.”

In Kano, the Court of Appeal issued a judgment in favour of both parties in the contest for the governorship of the state, claiming in one length to uphold the decision of the election petition tribunal invalidating the election of the incumbent on the slate of an opposition party, while in another breadth nullifying the same decision. In a reasoning that had the effect of overruling the Supreme Court, the Court of Appeal implausibly held that the Governor was not a member of the party that sponsored him in the Kano governorship election.

Plateau was the state where the Court of Appeal was most willful. It is also the state of origin of Judge President Monica Dongban-Mensem. Two days before her 63rd birthday, on 11 June 2020, Mrs. Dongbam-Mensem became the seventh President of the Court of Appeal. At the time, the governor of the State was Simon Bako Lalong, a lawyer who, like Mrs. Dongbam-Mensem, hails from Shendam in the Central Senatorial Zone of the Plateau State.

The following year, Mr. Lalong appointed Monica’s daughter, Buetnaan Mandy Dongban Bassi, a judge of the High Court of Plateau State. Her mother sat on the National Judicial Council (NJC) which approved her appointment. Two years later, in September 2023, the same NJC sent Buetnaan’s husband and Monica’s son-in-law, Paul, to the Court of Appeal.

In his previous life as Speaker of the Plateau State House of Assembly, Mr. Lalong used to be a member of the Peoples’ Democratic Party (PDP) when belonging to that party was fashionable. With impressive timing, however, he flipped to the All Progressives Congress (APC), becoming state governor on its platform in 2015. In the 2023 election, he was the Director-General of the presidential campaign of the ruling APC.

In that election also, Mr. Lalong, who was born nearly six years after Mrs. Dongbam-Mensem in May 1963, ran on the platform of the APC to represent the people of Plateau Central in the Senate. If he had won, Mrs. Dongban-Mensem would have been his constituent and confidant. They come from the same neighbourhood. In the event, he lost to Napoleon Bali of the PDP.

Mr. Lalong thereafter challenged his loss before the election petition tribunal. For parliamentary elections, all disputes end at the Court of Appeal. The Court sits in panels of three Justices designated by the President of the Court.

In Plateau State, all appeals went to a panel presided over by Justice Oluwayemisi Williams-Dawodu who has been a Justice of Appeal since March 2014. She was joined by Justice Abdulaziz Waziri, who was appointed to the court in 2021; and Okon Abang whose term on the court began only in October 2023.

On 7 November, this Court of Appeal panel nullified the election of Senator Bali, claiming that “the PDP and its Senatorial candidate have no legal ground to participate in the election having failed to obey the judgment of a Plateau High Court that the party should conduct lawful elections for the purpose of having officers for Wards, Local Governments and State Council.” In his place, the court returned Simon Lalong as the winner of the election in which he had been roundly defeated.

Lalong was one beneficiary among many from a judicial hit-list methodically compiled by the Court of Appeal in Monica Dongban-Mensem’s home state. By the time its demolition job was over, the Court had sacked two PDP Senators from the state and five members of the House of Representatives elected on the PDP ticket.

In the 25-member state House of Assembly, the Court of Appeal removed 16 members elected on the platform of the PDP, handing their seats and control of the state parliament – with malice aforethought – to the APC.

Their victims included: Timothy Datong (Riyom); Rimyat Nanbol (Langtang); Moses Sule (Mikang); Salome Waklek (Pankshin); Bala Fwangje (Mangu South); Maren Ishaku (Bokkos); Dagogot (Quaanpan North); Nannim Langyi (Langtang North); Nimchak Rims (Langtang South); Danjuma Azi (Jos North-West); Gwottson Fom (Jos South); Abubakar Sani Idris (Mangu North); Happiness Akawu (Pengana); Ibrahim Abalak (Rukuba/Irigwe); Philip Jwe (Barkin Ladi); and Cornelius Deyok (Qua’apan South).

In all these cases, the Court claimed that the PDP should not have fielded candidates. Their reasoning overruled a long line of Supreme Court decisions. This was not a mistake; it was judicial malpractice on a very corrupt scale. At the minimum, the panel should have been called to order when they issued the first decision. But the Judge President who sent them there was getting what she wanted.

Instead, inebriated with hubris from the corrupt demolition job they accomplished in Jos, one of the members of the panel, Justice Abdulaziz Waziri, traveled to Yola in Adamawa State last December to celebrate the mandates they had laid to waste, claiming that the PDP “had no structures on the ground at the point they were presenting their candidates.” He alone could explain what he meant.

This was a judicial hatchet job. Any claim that the President of the Court of Appeal was not herself a member of the Panel is laughable.

Such is the state of the judiciary in Nigeria at this time that the three-person panel whom Monica Dongban-Mensem sent to Plateau State could not have wrought that amount of destruction without her active consent, if not instruction. It is simply inconceivable that a Justice of Appeal, like Okon Abang – sworn in only in October 2023 – could have gone to the home state of the President of the Court to confidently wreak so much political damage without her explicit instruction.

Last Friday, the Supreme Court ruled that the Court of Appeal in Plateau was rogue, procured and perverse. It set aside the reasoning of the Court which denied the people their chosen representatives. But because the Court of Appeal is the final court in these matters, the decision of the Supreme Court is no remedy for the political ruin procured under the baleful influence of Monica Dongban-Mensem.

The ruin caused and supervised by this President of the Court of Appeal is incalculable.

The legislators whose mandates she has stolen are entitled to feel done over.

The people of the Plateau whose will she has ruined are entitled to feel cheated.

She and her cohort of carefully selected judicial mobsters have brought the judiciary into irreparable disrepute.

Even now, those three Justices on the Plateau Court of Appeal panel should still be brought to account.

While we await that, the only thing left to say to Mrs. Dongbam-Mensem is: in God’s name, please go!

A lawyer and a teacher, Odinkalu can be reached at [email protected]

Mother of triplets detained in hospital over N352,350 delivery bill

An Enugu capital city based private hospital, Praise and Grace Hospital and Maternity, has detained one Mrs Joan Orajiobi and her newborn triplets over the family’s inability to pay delivery fee of N352,350.

Orajiobi, a native of Nnewi in Anambra, gave birth to two girls and a boy in the hospital in Enugu on New Year day.

Speaking to NAN at the hospital on Friday, Orajiobi, who lives at Ologo Quarters in Uwani Enugu, said she had been discharged since January 8 but held back by the hospital due to their inability to complete the hospital bill.

She said the hospital billed them a total of N482,350, but that her husband was only able to pay N130,000, remaining a balance of N352,350.

“The bill amounted to that because I gave birth through Caesarian Section (CS).

“I am a hair dresser. I have two girls already before this pregnancy came in May, but I never knew I was pregnant with triplets until the scan which showed that I was carrying twins.

“I am pleading with Nigerians, organisations especially the governors of Enugu and Anambra states, to come to my rescue and assist us with financial support. I want to go home and take care my children.

“Anybody that is touched by our condition can reach and assist us through my husband’s Access Account Number 0043854232, Account Name: Nchekwube Orajiobi C. and his WhatsApp 08065846537,” she pleaded.

She added that she was always touched seeing other patients that came after them leaving the hospital while they were held because they could not pay.

The husband, Mr. Cornelius Orajiobi, a trader, said they both hailed from Obiofia in Nnewi North Local Government Area of Anambra State.

He said he was excited to have triplets but concerned that it would be difficult for him and his wife to take care of the babies feeding.

“Nigerians should please assist us because this gift is bigger than what we can cater for alone.

“The N130,000 I deposited came from friends and well-wishers while I borrowed some.

“Apart from the medical bill, I need what I will use to bring up these kids,” he pleaded.

When contacted, the Medical Director of the hospital, Dr. Shedrack Emeribe, told NAN that he operated on Orajiobi without a deposit from the family.

He added that it was after four days of the operation that her husband made deposit of N60,000 before making it up to N130,000.

Dr. Emeribe explained that all the things they were requested for the delivery were not provided, stressing that the hospital provided it for them.

“I told the husband to make initial deposit of N150,000 but he never paid a dime till few days after CS. But I have to save those lives,” he said.

He said that the bill of N482,350 included surgery, theatre, drug fees and hospital services.

NAN

Intimate Affairs: Polygamy is the domestic form of boardroom politics, By Funke Egbemode

By Funke Egbemode

A second wife’s reality checklist

Polygamy is not another type of marriage. Polygamy is another level in the marriage pantheon. It is a special kind of marriage that involves more than one woman loving and laying claims to one man. Of course, no wife wants to hear of or have to contend with it, because no woman really wants to share the heart or any part of her man. But polygamy is real and I bet, at least one marriage is threatened by this harsh reality even as you read this.

Do I support it? No, but what has my support or lack of it got to do with what is happening somewhere even this very minute? Women, we are tough. Wives are a big deal. I have sons. I have brothers. And I most certainly don’t want ‘my boys’ to have to deal with more than one wife per lifetime. We are more than a handful, we women. I most certainly do not envy or wish to be in the shoes of men who have to live with more than one wife, day in day out.

However, today is not about polygamy, men and their self- inflicted headaches. This is about women who think polygamy is just another form or type of marriage, because it is not. This piece is about women who are considering becoming second, third or fourth wives.

Polygamy is the domestic form of boardroom politics.
And that does not mean that polygamy is softer than boardroom politics. Being a second wife requires nail-hard coping skills, clear-eyed, deft manipulative knowledge of human nature.

It is not about ‘roses are red’ and ‘he loves me more than his first wife’. It is not about being his favourite or current champion. It’s not about who has the hottest skills in bed or who cooks better. All of that are part of the mix but there are harder and harsher reality checks any woman must take before taking the polygamy plunge.

Talking about plunge, if you are a woman who is considering diving into the polygamy pool, don’t you dare do it without a life jacket. Why? Because a one-man-one-wife marriage is stormy. Turbulence and violent storms, treacherous, life-threatening waves are some of the less colourful images that come to mind when polygamy is mentioned.

Let’s look at some of the reality checks and answer some questions.

Is he marrying you to pepper the first wife?

If the answer is ‘Yes’, you are going to have a hard time from the get-go. If all you are to this new husband is a can of pepper-spray to punish the first wife, you are just a fool likely to be discarded once you have served your purpose. What that means is that you are most likely a passing fancy, a weapon in the hands of a husband who wants to just get a reaction from his wife. Whichever way you look at it, this venture is not likely to end well, and worst still, it will most likely end sooner than you planned.

Is his wife the breadwinner?

You need to ask questions about the finances of the man who’s taking you as his second wife. Do not assume anything at all when it comes to the pockets of a married man who thinks he’s big enough to take on a second or a third wife. His word is not good enough, trust me, trust your instincts. You must be sure of who’s picking the bills, who’s buying the cars he cruises to your place. For all you care, the big house you think is his may actually belong to his wife or it could even be a wedding gift from his first Father-in-law. Now, what do you think is going to happen when you find yourself in the middle of that kind of financial mess? His first wife refuses to let you move into her home. She pulls the plug on Oga’s fine-boy lifestyle. She seizes the car keys and stops fuelling the generator. Is that not the definition of walking into a storm? So don’t downplay the answers to this breadwinner question. Some men are poor and unrepentantly proud. They spend their wives’ money and still want to be treated like a king. King of where? Not in this setting.

Are you the ATM he had been looking for all these years?

Sometimes, a second wife can be crowned a breadwinner. Don’t tell me you haven’t heard of it. Poor philandering man goes hunting for a rich, beautiful and desperate-for-marriage woman. Sometimes, the first wife is even in cahoots with her opportunist gigolo husband. They lure the new wife into a web. She becomes the new ATM. It’s the modern day version of money ritual. So, have you done your due diligence? Are you about to become a live-in-Sugar Mummy of the family? Is that what you wanted by becoming a second wife? You are just going to be treated like a fast selling product. Caveat emptor: you are liable to die young there. I will not give you details today.

Is ‘Madam of the house’ a hard ‘mama’ who has her husband by the balls?

Yes? Don’t go there. When Madam is done squeezing her husband’s balls, your neck will be the next port of call. Some wives can’t and won’t share and they will go to any length to defend their territories. In simple words, if you have heard strange stories about women who had dared to cross a certain first wife and ended up in a certain strange way, have a conversation with your leg and quietly ‘japa’

If you have heard of Oga’s former girlfriend or mistress who suddenly lost their senses, came down with intractable illness or even disappeared without a trace, do not wait. Just cross to the other side of the road and save yourself the agony and pain of weird things like monthly period that won’t stop flowing, like the ‘issue of blood’. Half a word is sufficient for the wise, right?

How many children should you have if he’s already 60?

Do the math. If he’s 60 when your first child is born, he will be 80 when that child is 20. May he live long, right? You see why you have to have your head screwed on tight and tight. If your children are not trust fund babies. How much work can a 80-year-old man do to put your son through medical school? You cannot become a second wife based on what your heart is telling you. The heart is not smart, consult your head. If a man does not have the means to project finances into the future of his children, what he needs is a girlfriend, a ‘waka pass’ side chick, not a new wife. Don’t walk with a man into a trap that will leave you stranded. Unless you have the means, polygamy is not a form of a marriage a struggling man should propose to you. Two children will be your best bet. Don’t do any illiterate competition with the senior wife. She’s the wife of his youth and had a head start. If you want four or five children, you should have started early with a man that will be primarily yours.

In a polygamy setting, there are factors that affect production and reproduction and they must be fully considered.

Should you wait for the will or take your inheritance upfront?

We are assuming that because your husband is older than you, he will die at a ripe old age, before you. Let us also assume that the older wife and the older children may influence Daddy’s last will and testament in a way that the sharing of the estate may not favour you. You may, however, get lucky and the will may favour you or at least, generously accommodate you. But as they say on the street: ‘whether there is fight or not, always guiding.’ So be guided. When you ask for gifts, ask for sensible ones. Invest in landed properties and jewellery in which you can store value like gold, like diamond. Watch out for your future. Don’t ask him for frivolous things like annual exotic holidays. Never forget that he does not belong solely to you, no matter the assurances he gives you.

Egbemode can be reached on [email protected].

Distraught husband tells court how he caught wife and her boyfriend naked in their bedroom

An angry husband who caught his wife in bed with a man has approached the court seeking both divorce and heavy monetary compensation from the trespassing man.

Mpanga, a metal fabricator Lusaka’s Chipata Compound, Zambia, who had been away on duty in Chongwe for six weeks decided to surprise his 30-year-old wife, Prisca Zulu, by arriving back home unannounced.

But on arriving home, the 38-year old husband ended up with a shock of his life.

“My once loving wife became hostile, distant after I changed my faith”, he told the court.

According to Zambia Observer, Mpanga said his wife reacted rather strangely to his “Honey, I am home” announcement.

“She just peeped through the window and closed the curtain,” he said.

After allowing himself in the house through the kitchen door, Mpanga noticed that his wife’s steps were distorted with worry and panic written all over her face.

Suspicious, Mpanga headed for the bedroom where he found a strange boxer on their bed along with other male clothes scattered on the floor.

When he picked the boxer to examine it, his wife attempted to grab it from him and this triggered a scuffle.

Mpanga during the fight fell on a heap of clothes that hid a naked man beneath it.

Mpanga on pulling the man from the heap of clothes and seeing the massive weapon he carried in his groin area, immediately understood why his wife of 13 years had suddenly developed a limp in her walk.

With the help of neighbours, the naked man who was identified as David Mbewe was marched to Kabanana Police Station while Mpanga kept the clothes as evidence of his wife’s infidelity.

Mpanga then went to the Matero Local Court seeking K30,000 compensation from David for adultery.

In court, Mbewe said he had only slept with Prisca on two occasions while the cheating wife admitted to her infidelity, but begged for forgiveness from her husband saying she treasured her marriage.

Ruling, the magistrate, Harriet Mulenga ordered Mbewe to compensate Mpanga with K35,000 while she counseled Prisca.

Probe into death of Globus Bank employee opens

As a sequel to the tragic death of a female marketing staff member a Globus Bank branch in Ikorodu, Lagos State, the Lagos State Police Command has commenced investigation into the death.

32-year-old Amarachi Ugochukwu was found dead in the bank’s restroom on Monday afternoon.

She is said to have drunk an insecticide.

Other members of staff began looking for her when the phone she left on her table kept ringing and she was not around to pick the calls.

Spokesperson of Lagos State Police Command, Benjamin Hundeyin, said the case had been referred to the homicide section at the SCID.

“The case is now at the homicide section of the State Criminal Investigation Department (SCID) in Yaba,” the Punch quoted him.to have said.

Meanwhile, some friends of the deceased have paid tributes to her on social media.

An X user named Becky wrote, “Finding out that the banker who committed suicide was one of my roommates back in Hall 2, University of Benin, just made the whole thing sadder and closer to home. Amarachi was so calm and loved going to church a lot back then.”

Similarly, a Facebook user, Folusho Adebisi, in a post on Thursday, described the late female banker as a friendly, amiable, and hardworking lady who did multiple jobs to survive.

He wrote, “Tiwalade, my son, woke me up this morning to the terrible news trending online about a young lady, Amarachi Ugochukwu, a banker committing suicide.

“Amarachi was a friend of Tiwalade and a customer of his business, Donetsk Footwear Limited. I had met Amarachi on a few occasions when she came for deliveries at Donetsk Footwear during the festivities.

“Amarachi was a young lady, friendly, amiable, and hardworking, a lady cobbler that combined her stressful job of a banker with another stressful business of shoemaking and marketing. I read she left a suicide note complaining of a hard life, hard economy, etc.”

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