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Nganjiwa, the Judge as a Verb

By Chidi Anselm Odinkalu

There is hardly any jurisdiction in the common law world in which a man with his current record could possibly still sit as a judge of a superior court of record. In Nigeria, however, Hyeladzira Nganjiwa proudly sits on the bench of the Federal High Court and currently serves in Abakaliki, Ebonyi State in south-east Nigeria. From this perch, he advertises everything squalid about the current state of Nigeria’s judiciary.

Nganjiwa went to Government Secondary School, Damaturu, when it used to be part of Borno State, finishing in 1978. In 1979, University of Lagos admitted him to read law. In 1984, he enrolled to become a lawyer in Nigeria. Nganjiwa did his compulsory national service with the Ajaokuta Steel Company, before finishing it in 1985 with the Ministry of Justice in Ilorin when both were part of old Kwara State.

Thereafter, Nganjiwa returned to his native Borno State, from where he compiled a career as a public prosecutor, rising to the rank of Chief Legal Officer at the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency (NDLEA) until 1995, when he became Deputy Director of Public Prosecutions in the Borno State Ministry of Justice. Nganjiwa thereafter returned to private practice from where President Goodluck Jonathan appointed him a judge and he was sworn in to the bench of the Federal High Court on 28 May 2012.

Less than a few years into his judicial career, Nganjiwa was rolling in incredible money. According to the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, in two years between 2013 to 2015, Nganjiwa the judge received extra-judicial payments totaling over $260,000 into his bank accounts from unknown sources. Over the same period, he similarly received over 8.2 million Naira also from undisclosed sources. He was not the beneficiary of a trust fund or inherited money.

 Persuaded that the judge was transacting in shady judicial business, the EFCC arraigned Nganjiwa a mere five years into his judicial career on 23 June, 2017 on 14 counts of unlawful enrichment. This was a charge of judicial graft.

 A judge who takes their office seriously will be affronted by such a charge and will make it a priority to clear their name. This was the least of Nganjiwa’s concerns, however. Instead, he asserted impunity, claiming that the court could not try him when he had not yet been disciplined by the National Judicial Council, NJC. This was worse than an odd argument to make for three reasons.

First, the NJC polices judicial mis-conduct alright but is neither the police nor a public prosecutor. Second, the NJC has lacks the wherewithal by itself to investigate unlawful enrichment. Third, it was akin to saying judges are lawless. Rule 1(1) of Code of Conduct for Judicial Officers, which the NJC enforces, requires all judges to “respect and comply with the laws of the land….” That would include the laws on unlawful enrichment.

At the High Court of Lagos, Justice Adeola Akintoye was not much persuaded by this objection and threw it out. Nganjiwa appealed to the Court of Appeal, which agreed with him. On 11 December 2017, the Court of Appeal ruled that he could not be prosecuted, unless the NJC had disciplined him on the matter.

Interestingly, in the same judgment, the Court observed that : “If a judicial officer commits theft, fraud, murder or manslaughter, arson and the likes, which are crimes committed outside the scope of the performance of his official functions, he may be arrested, interrogated and prosecuted accordingly by the State directly without recourse to the NJC.”

The Court of Appeal was able to see that theft, fraud, murder or manslaughter were not part of the job specification for a judge. But they seemed to believe that judicial corruption could be but we digress.

A dis-satisfied EFCC appealed to the Supreme Court, which at the end of May 2022, threw out the appeal and discharged Nganjiwa. It did not acquit him though. So, the Supreme Court set him free but fully blemished with the whiff of judicial corruption.

In any other jurisdiction, this would have been the end of Nganjiwa’s judicial career but in the weird logic of the NJC, however, it was its rejuvenation instead. On the 10th anniversary of his appointment as a judge of the Federal High Court, Nganjiwa, who had been under suspension all these years while the proceedings went on, returned to the bench with a license once more to go judging.

Last November, the latest postings by the Chief Judge of the Federal High Court took Nganjiwa to Abakaliki. As if by divine synch, one month later on 20 December, Godswill Akpabio, president of the Senate, formally declared vacancies in respect certain seats in the upper chamber, including that for Ebonyi South, formerly represented by David Umahi who now serves as a Minister in the federal cabinet.

Two days thereafter, on 22 December, the Independent National Electoral Commission (INEC) issued a notice of by-elections covering the seats which the Senate president had declared vacant. It required the parties to conduct their primaries for purposes of selecting their candidates between 5-9 January and to complete candidate nomination formalities by 13 January. In all, the parties had 17 days (including week-ends) to complete candidate selection and another four days to complete all filings with INEC. The Commission fixed actual voting in the by-elections for 3 February.

On 9 January, five persons claiming to be “intending delegates” in the primaries of the Peoples’ Democratic Party (PDP), initiated proceedings in Nganjiwa’s court in suit no. FHC/AI/CS/6/2024 between Chief Stanley Okochie Nkaa & 4 Others v. PDP, INEC & 2 Others, asking the judge to exclude the party from the by-election because the selection of its candidate, Silas Onu, four days earlier was not preceded by 21 days’ notice. The law actually only allows aspirants to sue.

In the course of the proceedings, one of the named plaintiffs told the court that he had not instructed anyone to initiate the case in his name. His name was removed from the list of parties. That should have told most judges that something was not right. But not this one.

23 days after the case was filed, on 1 February, Nganjiwa issued a 57-page judgment granting the claimants everything they asked for. He specifically issued “an order of perpetual injunction” restraining INEC from recognizing the PDP candidate in the by-election, “and his name shall not be included in the election.”

This was exactly two days before the by-election. As a practical matter, this was not an order that the INEC could have complied with without postponing the ballot in Ebonyi South because it had printed all the ballot papers and deployed significant electoral capability ahead of the date. As most sensible lawyers know, injunctions are equitable remedies and equity does not act in vain.

Having made these serious orders against INEC (a defendant) in the proceedings, however, Nganjiwa very curiously also awarded costs of one million Naira in its favour to be paid by the PDP and its candidate whom he had just directed the Commission to exclude.

It seemed clear even on the face of the judgment that the case was joint enterprise between the plaintiffs, the judge and INEC officials in Abakaliki. In the course of his judgment, Nganjiwa felt called upon to justify why he had to accept everything INEC said as gospel. He described the Commission as “an unbiased Empire” (sic), proclaiming that as the reason why he had “no doubt in my mind to doubt whatever information(s) supplied by the (INEC)” (sic).

When you end up with a court judgment that induces moral and jurisprudential indigestion on this scale, there is a word for it: you have been Nganjiwad.

A lawyer and a teacher, Odinkalu can be reached at [email protected]

As kidnapping, banditry wreck havoc on lives and businesses, will the influential Nigerian Senator allegedly in bed with terrorists ever face the law?

As the spate of kidnaping continue across the country with a wedding ceremony ruined when terorists abducted the bride and about 52 women escorting her to her matrimonial home in Dandume Local Government Area of Katsina State, a top Northern Senator is allegedly being closely watched by security agencies spearheading terrorism, banditry and Kidnapping.

The influential lawmaker, who is also heading a sensitive committee in the senate, has been identified as one of the a sponsors and financiers of banditry and other terror-related activities in the North, competent sources told Saturday Vanguard last night.

Days ago, bandits who had previously collected N8.5 million before releasing four out of 17 abducted individuals, including a nurse in Kawu, Bwari area council of the Federal Capital Territory (FCT), demanded two brand new Bajaj motorcycles for the release of the remaining 11 victims still in captivity.

The bandits initially invaded Kawu community on December 26, 2023, and abducted 23 persons. Four of them managed to escape, leaving 17 others in captivity.

Meanwhile the rising cases of kidnapping in the Federal Capital Territory (FCT) Abuja, Nigeria’s capital city, has left an undesirable economic impact on residents, a new report has said.

SBM Intelligence, a research advisory firm, disclosed this in its report titled ‘Inside Nigeria’s Hostage Capital: Unraveling the Economic Impact of Abuja’s Kidnap Epidemic’, released on Thursday.

The report explained that the current atmosphere of insecurity in Nigeria’s capital has contributed to a downturn in economic activities by 33 per cent.

The rate of kidnap in Nigeria’s capital city in recent months has left residents afraid for their safety.

SB Morgen’s report said Abuja has witnessed a significant surge in minor thefts, ‘One Chance’ robberies, armed robberies, and home break-ins, with the recent kidnap cases indicating a rapid deterioration in the country’s security situation.

The research firm said it conducted thorough interviews with residents across various locations in Abuja, to understand their apprehensions regarding the escalating cases of kidnapping and the economic effects.

In addition to these in-depth interviews, it said news reports detailing kidnapping incidents in the capital city were also analysed to provide a holistic overview.

Economic impact

Delving into the economic implications stemming from the surge in kidnappings in Abuja and its profound impact on the city’s residents, the report noted that there has been a 10 to 50 per cent rise in rent in upscale areas.

According to the report, the surge in crime rates, particularly kidnapping, is resulting in a decline in property values, especially in affected areas like Bwari and its surroundings. It noted that landlords are grappling with the repercussions as a significant number of individuals are relocating from these regions.

This, it said, could deter prospective buyers and investors, negatively impacting the local real estate market.

It explained that transportation fares are up by 100 to 250 per cent due to the prevailing crisis.

“The residents in the FCT find themselves grappling with increased transportation expenses, particularly for movement within the city centre,” it said.

It added that the widely used public transport service, ‘Along,’ has become a hotspot for ‘One Chance’ operatives, prompting residents to opt for more secure alternatives such as Bolt and Uber.

Worse still, the report said the increase in fuel prices has rendered these ride-hailing services relatively expensive.

Ripple Effects

The current atmosphere of insecurity has contributed to a downturn in economic activities, particularly impacting nightlife such as night markets, hangout spots and recreational and entertainment spots, the report said. This has resulted in a 33 per cent downturn in economic activities.

The report said many city workers, who often work late, now prefer to head straight home instead of engaging in late-night shopping or recreation.

“The decrease in foot traffic is evident as businesses face reduced patronage, driven by concerns about kidnapping. This economic downturn threatens financial losses for local and small enterprises,” the report said.

It said residents, including individuals and businesses, have taken to diverting extra resources toward reinforcing security measures.

“The heightened expenditure on security systems, personnel, and protective measures imposes additional strain on personal and corporate budgets. For many residents, acquiring supplementary security comes at a considerable expense, especially considering the prevailing economic challenges in the country,” it added.

The SBM report further showed that about 283 individuals were abducted between 15 January 2023 and 15 January 2024.

“Insecurity in and around Abuja is fuelling tensions in the capital, and although the violence is still mostly in satellite towns such as Bwarn and Kuje, our data, which spans between 15 January 2023 and 15 January 2024, shows a steady increase in abductions in the main city centres in Abuja Municipal Council Area, bringing insecurity closer to the heart of Nigeria’s government,” the report said.

Recommendation

To curtail the growing kidnapping incidents, SBM Intelligence recommends the urgent need for proactive government intervention to apprehend perpetrators and set a precedent, discouraging others from engaging in such criminal activities.

“Addressing the current lack of affordable public transportation in Abuja is a priority to enhance residents’ security while commuting.

Also, the report said the government needs to establish an ongoing dialogue with the community to understand and respond to residents’ needs.

“Introducing a governor, or ideally a mayor with autonomous executive powers separate from the federal government, would instigate accountability and prompt the adoption of protective measures,” it said.

The top sources, who spoke in confidence with our correspondent, admitted that the unpatriotic actions of the senator were already known to relevant government agencies and he would soon be made to account for his heinous deeds.

One of the sources said: “We are aware of the Senator’s unholy relationship with the enemies of state, including the number of times he had held noctornal meetings with kidnappers, bandits and terrorists in Abuja, the seat of power”.

It was also learnt that the parliamentarian, who is allegedly linked to an outspoken Islamic scholar, brings his overwhelming influence to bear on investigative activities of relevant security agencies.

Among other crimes allegedly committed by the lawmaker is the fact that he knows those behind the kidnap of some female students of the Federal University, Gusau, Zamfara State and the corps members from Akwa Ibom State who were seized on their way to Sokoto and have since been kept away by their abductors.

One of the top sources said further on the antics of the Senator: “Relevant security agencies have since unravelled the identity of a Senator from the North, who is the chief sponsor and financier of banditry and other terror-related activities in parts of the North.

“As a matter of fact, he is in marriage with the bandits, who have been terrorising the North Central and the North West general areas.

“His tendencies are so disruptive and over-arching that he interferes with the investigative activities of security and other law enforcement agencies, who have continued to make inroads into terrorism, sponsorship and financing.

“Let me shock you: investigations have so far revealed that the lawmaker knows where kidnapped Zamfara female varsity students, and members of the National Youth Service Corps are being held”.

Another informed source, who spoke in similar vein, said: “Security agencies are aware of the Senator’s disruptive activities and have placed him under surveillance, being a person of interest.

“While an influential Islamic scholar can be said to be in bed with suspected terrorists, this high-profile Nigerian is in marriage with the bandits, and you know what that mean.

“We are wondering why he was given such a sensitive chairmanship position to occupy, considering his antecedents, which were appropriately communicated to the highest authorities.

“The Senator is at the centre of banditry activities in parts of the North, especially in the North Central and North West general areas.

“He knows himself and he dare not try to intimidate anybody because all the meetings he held with banditry and kidnap kingpins in Abuja and elsewhere, are noted by revant agencies of government.

“The truth of the matter is that security agencies are doing their best in terms of intelligence, investigations and operations, but what they need to identify, isolate and bring terrorists and their sponsors/financiers to deserved justice, is the political will on the part of government”.

Sources: Premium Times/Vanguard

Man in a video laments Friday power outage at Murtala Muhammed International Airport

Although the Federal Airports Authority of Nigeria (FAAN) has neither apologised nor given an explaination for the power outage at the Murtala Muhammed International Airport, Lagos on Friday 2 February 2024, many are left wondering when the unending tasteless drama in Nigeria will cease to unfold.

Watch the video.

Treasure your children

By Bob and Debby Gass

‘Children are a blessing and a gift from the LORD.’

Psalm 127:3 CEV

A Christian psychologist writes: ‘Several months ago I talked to a man who described one of the most painful experiences of his life. When he was seventeen, he was one of the stars on his high school football team. But his father, a very successful man in the city, was always too busy to come and see him play.

Quickly the final game of the season came around, which happened to be the state championship. The boy was desperate to have his dad there. The night of the big game he was on the field warming up when he looked into the stadium just in time to see his father arrive with two other men, each wearing a business suit. They stood talking together for a moment or two, and then left. The man who told me this story is now fifty-eight years of age, and yet he had tears streaming down his cheeks as he relived that moment long ago.


‘It’s been forty years since that night, and yet the rejection and pain are as vivid as ever. I was struck again by the awesome influence a father has in the lives of his children. When he is uninvolved, when he doesn’t show love or care for them, it creates a vacuum that reverberates for decades. My friend’s father died not long ago.

As he stood by his dad’s body in the mortuary, he said, “Dad, I never really knew you. We could have shared so much love together –but you never had time for me.”’ If you’re a parent or grandparent, remember that children are a ‘gift’ from God. Treasure and enjoy them.

We thank God for the privilege to enter February. Show genuine love and care to the people around you, and enjoy the very best that February has in stock.

Exodus 19-20, Matthew 18:21-35

The Word for Today is authored by Bob and Debby Gass and published under licence from UCB International Copyright 2024

Husband tells wife —Your salary must be in my account or quit your job!

A husband has ordered his wife to quit her job after her boss asked her to resolve issues with her bank account so her wages can be paid directly to her.

The woman’ boss said she pays the wife’s salary into her husband’s account and this leaves the wife with no savings.

She decided to help by giving the women direct control of her own money. However, her effort to help the wife backfired.

The boss tweeted: “I advised my cleaner to go and fix her ATM issues so I can stop sending her wages to her husband’s account so she can save and have some control over her hard earned money.

“He told her not to come again.”

Husband orders wife to quit her job after her boss asked her to stop using his account to receive her salary
Husband orders wife to quit her job after her boss asked her to stop using his account to receive her salary
Husband orders wife to quit her job after her boss asked her to stop using his account to receive her salary
Husband orders wife to quit her job after her boss asked her to stop using his account to receive her salary

Report by Linda Ikeji

Those lawsuits you’d never believe made it to the courts (Part 1)

Kidnapper sues hostages for escaping. The kidnapper claimed he and the couple had a legally binding oral agreement for them to hide him from the police.

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Crocs and the Case of the Shrinking Shoes 

Also on our list is an unusual lawsuit against Crocs, the popular shoe brand, which faced legal action for allegedly selling shoes that shrink when exposed to heat. Crocs responded to the lawsuit, explaining that it would be a strange business strategy in today’s competitive market.  

Man wants to legally change his age. A 69-year-old Dutchman wanted to legally change his age in order to avoid ageism.

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Woman shocked jelly beans contain sugar.A California woman sued Jelly Belly for using the term “evaporated cane juice” instead of the word “sugar” in its jelly beans’ food label.

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Man sues date for being on her phone. A 37-year-old from Austin, Texas, was offended that his date spent the time they were at the movies to see “Guardians Of The Galaxy Vol. 2” texting on her

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Footlong sandwich is not a foot long. ASubway footlong sandwich turned out to be only 11 inches, an inch too short.

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Empty space in Junior Mints boxes. Biola Daniel and Abel Duran of New York and Trekeela Perkins from Mississippi believed the candy’s maker tricked people by underfilling Junior Mints boxes.

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Is firefighter’s fear of fire a disability? Shayn Proler from the Houston Fire Department claimed his fear was a disability and that he was discriminated against because of his disability.

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Subway’s Tuna Tales 

Subway, the global sandwich chain, was accused of serving a tuna sandwich that allegedly lacked tuna. Although the lawsuit was dismissed, Subway faced bad publicity. They launched a website, www.subwaytunafacts.com, in response to the erroneous lawsuit.   

Customers disappointed that Red Bull did not energize them. A class-action lawsuit accused the company of having misleading ads and making false claims.

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Credits: Usatoday.com/ instituteforlegalreform

Prosecuting our convictions with courage – A tribute to Oluwarotimi Odunayo Akeredolu, SAN (Aketi Baba)


By Ikeazor Ajovi Akaraiwe, SAN (1st Vice President when Aketi was NBA President)

  1. INTRODUCTION
    Warning. I may not be able to write about Aketi in the past tense. I had the good fortune of being First Vice-President of the Nigerian Bar Association (NBA) when Aketi was NBA President (2008-2010). Our tenure commenced on my 46th birthday, August 29, 2008. I call it a good fortune because I was exposed, like never before, to forthright, courageous and multidimensional leadership.

I studied, understudied and drank from his wealth of conviction, leadership and intrepidity.

  1. AKETI – MAN OF UNPARALLELED COURAGE AND VISION

Aketi understood the possibilities inherent in the NBA Presidency and used it. Under him, NBA traversed the national landscape like a colossus. Some NBA Presidents are made by that office. Aketi enlarged the office, and in doing so enlarged the NBA. The sitting Chief Justice at the time called me to complain about Aketi, while my State Governor asked me to advise him. The presidential villa sent for me to explain government position to him through me. And he chuckled with laughter when I passed all these to him. Indeed, INEC appointed me Chair of the INEC Monitoring Board for the Anambra State gubernatorial elections of 2010 (between Peter Obi and Andy Ubah) not because I was anything in myself but because under Akeredolu, NBA had become too big to be ignored.

To mention only a few, Akeredolu took on the Federal Government for refusing to prosecute the Halliburton corruption, challenged the court of appeal over their contradictory judgments, and used the NBA brand to fight the government to a standstill over their embarrassing refusal to transmit executive authority to Vice-President Goodluck Jonathan when President Yar Adua was too ill to continue. When as governor, Akeredolu became too ill to continue and power was not transmitted to his deputy, many of us recognised the failure of his handlers to stay true to his convictions. We recognised that this was not him; for truly if Aketi baba was more in control, he would have handed over. And why am I so sure of this? I remember how he called me to the NBA secretariat at Lagos on December 2nd 2009 (my wedding anniversary), to notify me of his intention to resign from the NBA Presidency on December 11, 2009 at the National Executive Committee meeting slated for Enugu that day if he was indicted by the committee of past presidents investigating the crisis in the NBA exco which he led, a crisis predicated upon his unbending principles and scarce righteousness.

  1. AKETI – MAN OF CONTRADICTION
    Aketi is a man of contradiction (I couldn’t bear to say ‘was’). A compassionate man, yet principled almost to a fault. At the International Bar Association (IBA) annual conference in 2009 at Madrid, Spain, I told him of some NBA national officers who were at Madrid and had run into financial difficulty. I requested him to release to them (myself excluded) a small amount out of the $20,000 (twenty thousand US dollars) we went along with to organise a dinner for potential investors in Nigeria, and lawyers of other jurisdictions to mingle with Nigerian lawyers for business purposes. His point blank response to me was that he could not, for any reason, use NBA funds for any purpose other than what they were earmarked for! And stuck to his guns.

Yet whenever Aketi saw evidence of poverty among his officers in particular, and lawyers in general, he was deeply moved to sorrow and often extended a helping hand.

While not permitting corruption he is highly empathic.

  1. MAN OF MANY PARTS
    Quick but short tempered. Childlike innocence yet witty and astute, he once asked me at an Abuja Sheraton event how my day had been. “Hectic,” came my unhesitating reply. He took one look at a rather thickset lady standing by me, nodded his head sagely and with a mischievous twinkle in his eyes said “Yes, it has been hectic for you.” Boy, he could sing and dance. One moment he was singing Fela’s music and the next singing Christian hymns. He was at home with Roman Catholic Church liturgy as he was with Anglican or Pentecostal settings. And to some extent could pray Muslim prayers when occasion called for it. On the last day of the annual general conference of the NBA which held at Lagos 2009, as he made his speech to the conference, he made a public declaration of his faith in Jesus Christ as his Lord and personal Saviour.
  2. CONCLUSION
    Totally without airs; at home with the noble and with the rabble, man of deep compassion for the downtrodden, and scant patience for the excesses of the bourgeoise class, man of nobility, dignity and humanity, a sterling leader of preternatural proportions. A transformational leader, a once-in-a-generation kind of leader. Aketi’s reputation is neither dimmed by the shenanigans of Nigerian politicians nor dented by the scandalous and salacious tales of those who ply in character assassination. Aketi was not a politician. He transcended politics. He was a statesman. A leader.
    Ikeazor Akaraiwe, Esq. SAN.
    NBA 1st Vice-President
    (Under Aketi’s Presidency).

Wife catches husband in bed with her mum in Nasarawa

A woman in Nasarawa state whose name was given as Doris has alleged that her husband cheated on her with her mother.

According to the The Nation, the woman said the secret affair between her 46-year-old husband and her mother was blown open by her six-year-old son.

The Nation reported that Doris’ mother, Madam Cynthia (surname withheld), did not deny the romance between her and her son-in-law when her daughter confronted her with the allegation. She reportedly told her daughter that she was in a relationship with her son-in-law (her daughter’s husband), Joseph, before they got married, and it was the best romance opportunity she had 20 years after she lost her husband.

Madam Cynthia said; 

“My husband died about 20 years ago, and I never found another man of my dreams until I met Joseph. He is a kind and generous gentleman. He is also very strong and very good in bed.

“He gave me the most satisfaction I ever had with a man in bed. Because of that, I did not want to lose his company, so I recommended him to you (Doris). I insisted that he must get married to you so you could have a taste of what he is made of.”

28-year-old Doris got married to Joseph, a sales manager with a private company, oblivious to the fact that he and her mother were dating. They got married while she was based in Keffi as a student at Nasarawa State University. She didn’t know about the affair because she was not visiting Lafia regularly and when she did during the holidays, she took up some casual jobs in Keffi despite her mother’s thriving restaurant business. 

Their affair came to light on January 18, when Madam Cynthia visited her daughter’s matrimonial home in New Nyanyan, Karu Local Government Area, Nasarawa State. Joseph was said to have moved to Nyanyan for the sake of proximity to his wife for whom he had secured a civil service job in Abuja.

Joseph and his mother-in-law (Cynthia) decided to engage in fresh sessions of romance during the visit. Unfortunately, their six-year-old son ran into them in one of the sessions and later let the cat out of the bag.

Narrating the incident, Doris said; 

“I met my husband through my mother in Lafia in 2018. I had just completed NYSC and she introduced him to me as someone who was very good and generous and would never maltreat me.

“Looking at Joseph, although he was not too young, he actually appeared gentle and promising. He would come to my mother’s restaurant every evening after the close of work, but I never suspected that he was also going out with my mother.

“She actually hid her main reason for linking the two of us together. My mother did not want my husband to get married to another woman basically because of his sexual prowess and kindness.

“To my admiration, Joseph actually showed commitment, making sure that all my needs were met even without me asking.

“Within a short time, he proved to me that he was actually a good man in addition to what my mother told me.

“We eventually got married in 2018, and two years later, we relocated to New Nyanyan because he had secured a civil service job for me in Abuja and also opened a salon for me.

“I have three kids and I am presently four months pregnant. My mother, a very careful woman, had told me after my marriage that she felt fulfilled that I got married to Joseph.

“She was always coming on visits, and would always ask whether I was enjoying my marriage. And I truly was enjoying it, because my husband did make life easy for me and my kids.

“She was always calling or visiting, and I thought it was because I am her only child. When I gave birth to my first son, she was very excited and often came to help out with house chores.

“She was always taking care of my kids who she loves so much. It was as if she was living together with us. We live in a three-bedroom apartment, so there was enough space for her to stay for as long as she wanted.

“On January 13, my mother came around and it coincided with the time my husband took a week off to rest at home. It never occurred to me that my husband’s one-week rest was tactically planned to coincide with my mother’s coming.

“The setting in my matrimonial home was the best for them because of the kids. They took care of the kids while I went to work, but I did not know that they were also taking care of themselves.

“My mum loves a particular brand of alcohol while my husband also likes a brand of wine, which he always ensured was in the refrigerator.

“So while I was away to work and the kids had gone to school, they kept each other company with their drinks. It never occurred to me that their relationship was beyond mother-in-law and son-in-law.

“On Thursday, January 18, I returned from work and my eldest son came into my room as I was pulling off my dress. He looked worried and confused, so I asked whether his aunty beat him in school or he was not given food, but he said nothing.

“When I prodded him further, he told me that he saw his father and grandmother fighting naked in the visitor’s room and grandma was crying while daddy was on top of her.

“I asked how he got to know, and he said that when he returned from school, grandma bathed him and he slept off after eating because he was tired.

“He said that when he woke up, he went to check on Grandma (Madam Cynthia) in her room and found that she and her father were fighting naked and Grandma was crying under him.

“Obviously, they did not lock the door. He said his father ordered him to go out immediately. Although I was shocked at the revelation, I managed to control my anger and inquire to know more of what went wrong in my absence.

“My son’s claims were actually not unexpected because of my mother’s constant visit to us and her unusual closeness to my husband.

“They were so close and were always in the sitting room together. But another thought came into my mind: the two of them had known each other before I came in, and I actually met my husband through my mother.

“I walked swiftly across the house and into my mother’s room and asked if there was something going on between her and my husband.

“She could not deny the allegation and that caused me to start shedding tears. I just did not know where the tears were coming from.

“My mother calmed me down and narrated the story of her relationship with Joseph and why she insisted that I should marry him.

“She said she got hooked on my husband because he was very good in bed in addition to his good nature. In fact, she described my husband as a Maradona in bed.

“She said that every woman would like such a man and she did not want me to miss out on him because those are the traits that sustain marriages.

“She said she would have felt cheated if Danjuma had married another woman, and that was why she persuaded me to marry him.

“She actually believed she was doing the best for me.

“Yes, the bible says honour thy father and mother, but what do you do with a mother who didn’t even honour her daughter’s wedding vows?

“Before I could say anything, she knelt down and said she was sorry I found out about their relationship the way I did, but she was not sorry she got both of us together.

“She said I should be grateful for our stable home and healthy children, adding that she did what she did because she was hungry for sex, particularly with Joseph.

“My mother confessed that on that particular day, they were together in the parlour when she suddenly grabbed Joseph and dragged him into her room.

“She said there was a flurry of actions without words. Unfortunately, my eldest son came in while they were in the thick of action. I couldn’t send my mother away because the children genuinely love her and she is a good grandmother.

“I used to be happy and grateful to her for giving me a husband that understands how to keep a woman. My husband is indeed very good in bed, and I thank my mother for bringing him into my life. But she should not have insisted on sharing him with me.

“I like him because he asks me out, opens the door for me, pours me drinks, offers me his jacket, kisses me and says good night. So I need to be his wife all the days of my life.

“His libido is very active. His weak point is his nipples. Once you suck them, he becomes like a lion ready to devour its prey.

“He is someone that can take me on for as long as I want. His sexual prowess is not in doubt. But my mother is not allowing me to enjoy my man alone.

“How can my husband be sleeping with me and my mother? It is wrong, shameful and abominable. I am in distress and I don’t know how to handle the matter.

“It would have been better for my husband to get a girlfriend than sleep with me and my mum.

“It is very shameful and an abomination of the highest order. It is wrong of her and it will be very shameful if people get to know about it.

“When I left my mum in her room and went back to my room wondering on how to approach my husband on his return, I’m sure my mother had informed him about my approach to her.

“So when he returned to the house, he looked calm and guilt was written all over him.

“When I finally asked him about his affair with my mum, he tried to adjourn the discussion to a later date, but I insisted.

“He then sat me down and narrated how he had known my mother while I was away in school, and it was through their relationship that my mother nursed the idea of connecting us for marriage.

“Having monitored my attitude, she strongly believed that I could give her daughter the desired comfort. So whatever has happened now was not planned. Let me call it a devilish act.

“He confirmed to me that the only mistake he made was to have succumbed to the pressure from my mum. He really apologised and pleaded with me not to take it to heart no matter the level of anger.

“Although I am still grappling with this nightmare in my life, I have to control my emotions as I don’t want to leave my marriage because of this terrible thing.

“I can’t also stop my mum from visiting us. She loves my children and cares so much about them, and I’m her only daughter. I don’t actually know what to do, though my husband has been begging me to forgive and forget.

“My sickness currently is from the mind. I’m so confused. The emotional pains are too much for me to bear.”

It was also gathered that her friend asked her to let it go in the recorded conversation. She said; 

“Please, don’t react angrily. It is not a matter of public consumption. Don’t let your marriage crash because of this abominable act. Think of your kids and swallow it because of them.”

The Nation

What exactly do men want from us?

By Funke Egbemode

If she gets promoted ahead of him, she must be sleeping with the boss. After all, he graduated before her. It doesn’t matter if he’s not half as intelligent as she is or can’t work without supervision. Is there a portion of the holy books that says all men are more intelligent than women? Some men have to work under women. All puns intended.

Why do men think big successful girls are single because all they want is money and independence, instead of marriage and commitment? Why do they think being financially independent means you want to live alone and die lonely? Well, the women also suspect that there is a hidden agenda somewhere. Yeah, can the men swear that they are not the ones annulling our rights and mandates, while promising to ‘Insha’ Allah ‘empower’ us. You can’t win against their armoury. It is so difficult to please or understand the way their minds work. But haven’t I warned that there is no point trying to decipher a man’s mind?

If you put a man on a pedestal and try to make him feel appreciated, he’ll say it’s because you want something from him.

If you respect him, run his bath, give him a massage on Friday evenings and curtsy when giving him his food, it’s because you saw that he’d just made some money and want to help him spend it. As if a girl can’t just be nice and give her man a treat.

If a woman stays at home doing her God-ordained duties as a good wife and mother, she is a lazy, unenterprising NFA (No Future Ambition). Really? The most tasking career is the one any full-time housewife does. No retirement, no leave and it is thankless most of the time. These guys can’t even manage the wife-for-a-day gig. And nine months with another human being growing inside you? That would kill these guys, mass-murder-like.

If a woman has a career that she works hard at, she is considered too hard, cold and unfeminine. She can’t be a complete woman. “In fact, I can’t marry a woman like that.” There are still guys all over the place who think that career women are not wife materials? Bush boys.

If a man has a low-paying, unchallenging job, his wife must have brought bad luck to him from her father’s house. “Don’t you see she has two left legs.” Unbelievable, right? That such men still walk around in this century is a crime, seriously.

If she gets promoted ahead of him, she must be sleeping with the boss. After all, he graduated before her. It doesn’t matter if he’s not half as intelligent as she is or can’t work without supervision. Is there a portion of the holy books that says all men are more intelligent than women? Some men have to work under women. All puns intended.

But if he has a headache after a busy day, he must see the doctor or check into a health resort to avoid a break down. “I work too hard to provide for everybody.” Ah ah. Try telling him you have a headache when he wants to make love and you must be having an affair.

Now if he gets a job ahead of her, that’s the way it should be because he’s supposed to be more brilliant, abi? Right. If you compliment his looks and clothes, you are doing it because you want to change your wardrobe too and if you keep quiet, you don’t appreciate him.

If a woman cries when he hurts her, she is blackmailing him. If she does not, she is arrogant and insensitive.

If a woman slaps a man, it’s an abomination but if he slaps her, she must have pushed him too far and a few slaps are necessary to keep a woman on the straight and the narrow.

If she is proud of her achievements and thanks God for how far He has taken her, she is boastful, trying to lord it over him and reminding him of his inadequacies.

If she advises him regularly, and takes interest in what he does, she is a nag and if she doesn’t, she is carefree, uncaring and unsupportive.

If she is so tired after a hard day’s work, traffic snarl and shopping, she is a lazy feminist, irresponsible career woman who can’t cook. It’s absolutely beneath him to make ordinary eba and warm the soup.

But if he has a headache after a busy day, he must see the doctor or check into a health resort to avoid a break down. “I work too hard to provide for everybody.” Ah ah. Try telling him you have a headache when he wants to make love and you must be having an affair.

Men are in a class all by themselves but we are not fooled. We can sense their insecurities. Thank God for the real men, the ones who are comfortable in their own skin, the ones who marry and stay married to successful women, knowing that they hold her heart and all that she comes with, lock, stock and barrel. Please raise your glasses to the he-men.

If your hours are easy and you get home early, you should go and get something challenging. See where all your mates are.

If you take a decision you think will benefit the family and surprise him, you have no regard for him and you are not submissive.

If you demand lovemaking when he’s tired, you are inconsiderate but if he demands it when you are tired, you are pushing him out, into the arms of a girlfriend.

If you dress smartly, you are trying to attract other men.

If you are fat, how can he introduce you to his friends? If you do aerobics and watch your figure, you are vain.
If he buys a car before you, a party must be thrown but if you buy one before him, you are arrogant. If he asks to use the car and you tell him to check the tires at the vulcaniser’s he will throw the keys back at you.

“So because it’s your car, I have now become a driver? The next thing you’ll tell me is to take the car to the car wash.” Men are in a class all by themselves but we are not fooled. We can sense their insecurities. Thank God for the real men, the ones who are comfortable in their own skin, the ones who marry and stay married to successful women, knowing that they hold her heart and all that she comes with, lock, stock and barrel. Please raise your glasses to the he-men.

Funke Egbemode was managing director/editor-in-chief of New Telegraph Newspaper, president of the Nigerian Guild of Editors and commissioner for information in Osun State. Email: [email protected]

How a pregnant mother of nine allegedly stole plantain and killed owner in Rivers State

The Rivers State police command has arrested a pregnant lady identified as Blessing Godday, for stabbing another woman identified as Mrs Imeran Idema, to death.

Blessing, who is a mother of nine children, reportedly killed Idema for trying to stop her from fleeing with a bunch of plantains she stole from a plantation. She committed the alleged offence while trying to get food for her hungry children on January 28, at Agada village in Abua, Rivers State.

It was gathered that Mrs. Imeran Idema, who was keeping watch on the plantation for her family, had told Blessing to drop the bunch of plantains but she refused. She fled towards another exit but was chased by Idema, who threatened to use the cutlass she had in her hand on Godday if she dared move another step.

Following an argument that ensued, Idema used the machete to stab Godday in her leg to prevent her from running further.

Godday then put down the bunch of plantains and descended on Mrs Idema, allegedly inflicting multiple injuries on her with her own machete, leaving the plantains and the bleeding owner inside the plantation.

Idema’s scream attracted other members of her family who immediately took her to the hospital for treatment. However, before she died, she was able to tell her family the person who injured her and what led to it.

A report was filed at the police station and Godday was subsequently arrested. When the police saw the injury the eight-month-pregnant woman had on her leg, she was sent home to go and treat herself and was rearrested two days later.

Confirming the incident, the Commissioner of Police, Rivers State Command, CP Olatunji Disu, urged people to think carefully before making life choices. He urged heads of households to procreate within their means and lead responsible lives.

Report by Linda Ikeji

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