As society continues to evolve, many still insist that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
For several women, one of the ways to show their partners that they care is by cooking their favourite meals. On account of this, a lot of women spend their early lives in the kitchen.
Mrs. Joy Abu, an Abuja businesswoman is however challenging that notion.
The aggrieved woman who has dragged her husband, Daniel, before a Customary Court in Nyanya, Abuja, for allegedly denying her conjugal rights insists that marriage is not about food only.
Joy, a resident of Jikwoyi area of Abuja, who also accused her husband of being irresponsible, is seeking a divorce. She further alleged that her husband does not care about her and their children.
“My husband has practically denied me of my conjugal rights. He doesn’t care to know how I feel, he doesn’t know that marriage is not only about food. A responsible man will cater also for the emotional needs of his wife.”
She then urged the court to grant her divorce; custody of their children and compel her husband to pay N100,000 for their children’s upkeep every month.
NAN reports that just before the Judge, Labaran Gusau, adjourned the matter to March 30. Mr. Daniel Abu denied all the accusations.
Amaka Nicholas in her article Are you in a sexless marriage? noted that “unfortunately, this is one of the most shameful secrets some married couples never reveal. They hide this state of their marriage from family and friends alike to avoid shame.”
Speaking on the issue, sex therapist, Mabel Onwuemele in PUNCH of 5 February 2023 stated that sex begins from an emotional thought before reflecting on the genitals. She added that without the emotional and sexual connection, couples would be unable to bond well.
Onwuemele revealed that during lovemaking, a hormone called oxytocin (happy hormone) is released, making the couples feel the connection that, when absent, creates a void.
“When couples stop doing the little things like buying gifts for themselves or communicating, it creates a sort of disconnection. Don’t stop doing the little things that made your partner fall in love with you. Focus on each other’s strengths. Loving someone means you’ll have to adjust and adapt to whom they are and live in understanding with them. This will make the home a much happier place, and make the couple feel more fulfilled. What burns down the home are little things neglected.
“Little gestures like telling your partner ‘I love you,’ how they mean to you, or appreciating them goes a long way in building that strong connection between you both and firing the sexual attraction you have for each other, she concluded.
