By Dele Olawanle
I did a family case recently where the wife of a client refused to allow him to see his children aged 13, 15, and 17. The children also said they did not want to have anything to do with their father and he did not know why.
The man became depressed because he had always looked after the family and paid for most things regarding his children’s needs before the wife kicked him out.
The woman however told the children that their father was irresponsible and that she was the one paying for everything. The children therefore hated their father but my client did not know why.
We were able to get contact through the court and he took the children for lunch. He then asked them why they hated him so much and the children said in unison that it was because he was not looking after them but left everything to mummy.
The man wept bitterly and after coming to himself opened his banking app to show them his bank statements dating back to many years. He showed them all the bank transfers to their mother and the children were dumbfounded. They apologized profusely to their father. They promised to show him love for the rest of their lives. They also thanked him for his love for them.
It was not the woman’s fault but the man who did everything through the banking app. Technology can become a problem.
Sometimes, you must give money to your wife in the presence of the children. Let them see you doing it. And you ladies too should let your children know when you are giving money to support the family. This can happen to anybody. Some men and women are so wicked.
I have been taking care of my parents and parents-in-law by sending money to them but I do let my children know so that we are not abandoned at our old age. You may think you don’t need the children but old age will surprise you when you become very vulnerable. They need to be by your side.
Let me tell you, what the children see is what they will emulate. Some things are not taught but caught by observation. Let them know what you are doing so you are not abandoned in your old age. You have been warned.
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