You don’t necessarily have to wait until marriage to begin to deal with certain marital issues.
Since it is often said that prevention is better than cure, it becomes absolutely necessary for courting, engaged, or other couples in serious committed relationships to discuss the following things…
Work stress
This is one aspect of pre-marriage conversations that many people hardly bother with.
Except you both expect to starve and/or beg, then, at least one of you has to go to work.
Upon return from a long stressful day, different people have different ways of resting or chilling.
You and your partner should discuss this before marriage, so as to avoid cases where you are usually feeling chatty after work, and she just wants to left alone for at least 2 hours after her return.
This kind of conversation will help you both know how make suitable adjustments, or at least, know what to expect after you finally say “I do.”
In-laws
The matter of bad in-laws is quite terrible that I hear some ladies now pray to marry a man whose mother is long dead before they even meet him.
Let’s even forget how absurd and terrible that kind of wish is; the truth still remains that not all mothers or fathers-in-law will be dead by the time you meet your partner, so it’s best you prepare to relate with them because they will be present in your married life whether you like it or not.
Clashes often arises when couples feel divided or threatened by by in-laws. So discuss well what your spouse’s relationship with his/her parents is like, so as to judge if they are still tied to mommy’s apron, or mentally mature enough to stand up and resist unnecessary interference from daddy. You really need to discuss this properly, really.
Money
This one does not really need much explanation as it is well-discussed matter already. All that’s left to do here is to remind you to ensure that you ask the right questions.
Don’t just ask him how much he earns, or how much of her salary she saves. Ask of their relationship with money, which is basically asking them to give you a recap of their financial history.
You should also not shy away from asking them about their financial strengths and weaknesses [Yeah, some people can spend their last kobo on clothes, and shoes… and for some, it’s just sports betting… smh.]
Please ask them to tell you about their financial dreams and goals, too.
Sex
We understand that they told us in church to shun pre-marital sex. [Amen]
However, I don’t think anyone will ban you from you from pre-marital sex-talk.
Yes, pre-marital sex-talk. Please talk about it. The fact that you are contemplating marriage with someone essentially means you are sexually attracted to that person, and that y’all are planning to do the do soon.
So there’s no sense in being too shy to ask him how often he thinks you should be having sex in a week, ask her into which hole she prefers to have it [clears throat], also ask about that body count.
Yes! The body count actually counts, too, and try to be as open and honest with your answers as possible.
Babies and contraceptive techniques
How many babies do you ideally want? What is the spacing between births going to be like? What techniques of contraception do you think we should use. These questions are equally as important. Please ask them.
Source: Pulse.ng
