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NLC rejects tariff hike

NIGERIA Labour Congress (NLC) President Ayuba Wabba, said on Tuesday that the NLC would reject any plan to inflict further pain on Nigerians.

In a statement titled: “Increase in electricity tariff by Abuja DisCo – a taunting of the will of Nigerian people gone too far,” the congress noted that the new plan by AEDC was “dead on arrival as it will be resisted by the Nigerian working class and people.

The NLC said: “It appears that the adamant desire of DISCOs in Nigeria to ram through their ill-conceived agenda to further impoverish Nigerians through astronomical tariff increase amidst a plummeting return on service delivery has now been deregulated. The DISCOs appear to have given themselves the ignoble tasks of taking turns to taunt the will of the Nigerian people.

“Abuja DISCO has adorned the robe of the protagonist in this regard with its announcement of a new tariff plan for electricity consumers within its service area starting from September 1, 2020.

“We are not aware of any order by the government or the elected representatives of the Nigerian people de-freezing the order to suspend any plans to inflict more pocket and psychological trauma on Nigerians by way of reckless and insensitive hike in electricity tariff.

“We wish to state that the Nigeria Labour Congress (NLC) seriously frowns at, completely condemns, and totally rejects any plan to inflict further pain on Nigerians at this very time of great economic distress. The new dribble by the Abuja DisCo is dead on arrival as it will be resisted by the Nigerian working class and people. The other DISCOs should not bother putting their ships of exploitation to sail.”

The NLC also stated that it was deeply concerned on the deaf and dumb posture of the regulator- the Nigeria Electricity Regulatory Commission (NERC).

“It is important to put on record the fact that NERC would be putting its name on the wrong side of history if it continues to play the Ostrich while a group of portfolio investors make a blood meal of Nigerians.

“Nigerian electricity consumers need the NERC to speak up and act now in defense of the rights of the Nigerian people,” the NLC stated in the statement.

The congress also stated that since the unbundling of the Power Holding Company of Nigeria (PHCN), electricity tariffs through the Multi Year Tariff Order (MYTO) have been increased a number of times without accompanying improvement in services.

The statement added: “It is unfortunate that since the unbundling of the former PHCN to yield DisCos and GenCos , electricity tariffs through the Multi Year Tariff Order (MYTO) have been increased a number of times without accompanying improvement in services.

“Each hike in electricity tariff in Nigeria is trailed by huge leap in hours of darkness, de-metering of more Nigerians, exponential rise in incidences of estimated billing, and increased burden on citizens for the procurement of equipment and facilities for public electricity supply amidst other devious methods by DisCos to cheat, exploit and despoil poor Nigerians.”

Nigerian Bar Association 2020 Presidential Election: A Matter Of Justice Character And Integrity

By Dele Adesina, SAN, FCI Arb.

INTRODUCTION

In my Petition dated August 2nd, 2020 to the Chairman, Board of Trustees of the Nigerian Bar Association, I drew attention to the flawed, illegal and unconstitutional process leading to the NBA Election of 29th – 30th of July, 2020 and the electronic fraud that characterised the Election proper. In that Petition, I stated inter alia that as a past Chairman of NBA Ikeja Branch, past General Secretary of the Association, a Life Member of the National Executive Committee and a Life Member of the Distinguished Body of Benchers in addition to other areas of responsibility that I have had the privilege to serve, I can lay claim to being one of the builders of the Association. Consequently, I will hate to see the Association destroyed or destabilised in any way or form. I also stated in that Petition that my participation in the affairs of the NBA is driven purely and absolutely by the desire to advance the interest and aspirations of the Association in particular and our beloved Profession in general.

In drawing attention to the serial violation of the provisions of the NBA Constitution, the cyber fraud perpetrated and the misuse and abuse of powers which I submitted characterised the election, I called for the cancellation of the Election. Recognising that if the election process is wrongful, illegal and unconstitutional, the product must suffer the same fate.

BOARD OF TRUSTEES – FINDINGS AND RECOMMENDATIONS

In a letter authored by the Chairman of the Board of Trustees, Dr. Olisa Agbakoba, SAN, dated 19th of August 2020, it was stated that: “although you have petitioned to us, we must be clear that we have no judicial authority to give direction to the NBA, our position in the circumstance is at best advisory. Nonetheless, we have read your Petition and noted that it raises many general and specific allegations in relation to the Elections…. The Trustees have given careful consideration and deeply reflected on your Petition and all the responses, in particular that of ECNBA. We note that the Elections were not perfect. We reviewed your Petition and note that it raises serious issues. Nonetheless our advice would be that the overall interest of the Bar should be paramount on the mind of every Nigerian Lawyer and to that extent, we urge that all Lawyers and no less the Candidates be mindful of the need to promote a cohesive, united and strong Bar. We regret that we are unable to advise that the election should be cancelled in the overall interest of the Bar.” 
The Trustees further noted that “our elections continue to present challenges going back to 2016 and strongly recommend that a major transformation of our electoral process and framework must be undertaking and we are happy to be assigned this very important responsibility…”

In an earlier letter dated 17th of August, 2020 (an unsigned letter which I received via my email from the Chairman) the Trustees stated that “Nonetheless, we have read your Petition and admit that it is not frivolous. The NBA 2020 Election was marred by irregularities. The ECNBA admitted that the election platform failed which is why they had to engage another I.T. Consultant. The ECNBA admitted that over 14,000 members could not vote which is an extremely high number. The ECNBA should have made provision to enable everyone to vote. This is an omission on their part. You have requested that the NBA 2020 Election be cancelled, but this will be unfair to those who have voted.”

The Letter continued: “the Trustees have given careful consideration and deeply reflected on the nature of advice to give. Our advice will be that the Bar should be paramount on the mind of every Nigerian Lawyer and to that extent, we urge that all Lawyers and no less the Candidates and in particular your good-self accept the Election with its inadequacies in good faith. We are very mindful in our advisory on the need to keep the Bar cohesive, united and strong.” The letter went further to state that “the Trustees are however disappointed that our Elections continue to present challenges going back to 2016 and strongly recommend that major transformation of our Electoral process and framework must be undertaken and we are happy to be assigned this very important responsibility.”

The following are evident from the decision of the Board of Trustees: First, the Petition was not frivolous; Second, the Petition raised serious general and specific allegations; Third, the ECNBA had no defence to the serious issues raised in the Petition; Four, since 2016, NBA Elections have been the subject of serious disputations for which they the Trustees were disappointed; Five, that a strong recommendation for a major transformation of our electoral process and framework should be undertaken; and Six, that the Board of Trustees are willing to undertake the job of electoral transformation of the NBA.

I know as a fact that all the members of the Board of Trustees agreed and were united on the specific findings that the Election was flawed and imperfect. All of them were also united in their desire to terminate the narrative of sham elections in the NBA since 2016, hence their willingness to undertake the responsibility of carrying out electoral transformation for the Association. They only differ on the consequences of their findings which is whether to direct an outright cancellation and order a fresh election, or direct a bye-election for the 14,000 voters that were disenfranchised, or allow the election to stand as it is.

I believe it is an attempt to marry these different outcomes that the Board of Trustees came to the advice that the overall interest of the Bar should be paramount on the mind of every Nigerian Lawyer. That the Board of Trustees urged all Lawyers including the Candidates of the need to promote a cohesive, united and strong Bar and that “the Board of Trustees regretted their inability to advice that the election be cancelled in the overall interest of the Bar.”

THE PETITION SUCCEDED

If my Petition will lead to the transformation of NBA electoral process that will free it from lawlessness, corrupt practices and other forms of cyber-crime for which NBA has become notably reputed since 2016 as promised by the Trustees, I will be satisfied. If my Petition will bring about a definite stop to a manipulated bi-annual electoral process with evidence of producing an appointed President or securing the election of a pre-determined President for the NBA and make votes count in future NBA Elections, I will be satisfied. If my Petition will enthrone respect for Rule of Law, respect for Due Process and stop misuse and abuse of power by a few individuals who believe that they must get what they want for the NBA and not what the NBA wants, I will be satisfied. If this Petition will inculcate and restore the glory, honour, honesty, dignity, integrity, moral and ethical principles on NBA leadership particularly its Presidents and make them do things right to re-establish the NBA as the conscience of the Nation once again, I will be more than satisfied.

As a Legal Practitioner of 38 years post-call and as a matter of practice and experience, I know that when allegation of facts succeeds in a civil claim and defence is held to have no probative value, granting of relief is automatic. When allegations of crime are proved in a criminal matter and defence is rejected, conviction also follows. In an Election Petition, where Grounds of Petition succeeds, such as it has been held by four (4) Trustees out of six (6) in this matter, setting aside of that election is a necessary consequence of the findings. However, in this case, the Board of Trustees have advised in spite of the seriousness of their findings that we accept the election in good faith because of the “need to keep the Bar cohesive, united and strong” in a typical Nigerian mentality.

Notwithstanding that the Board of Trustees of the NBA did not go the whole hog according to them “in the interest of the Association;” I nevertheless want to thank the four (4) members out of the six (6) for standing and upholding the truth on this matter. If I were to be the product of the election that has now been adjudged to be fatally flawed, I would have honourably stepped-aside and call for a re-election. This is because character, honour and integrity are the hallmarks of leadership. It must be particularly noted that we raised serious reservations in our letter of 7th of July, 2020 to the Electoral Committee against the serial breach of the provisions of the Constitution relating to the electoral process and the hap-hazard manner of handling the process, the secrecy surrounding the appointment of the I.T Consultant and the failure to demonstrate the process in order to ascertain the vulnerability and the integrity of the technology to be deployed for the election.

Similarly, Mr. Olumide Akpata also in a most vehement manner raised serious reservations in his letter of 20th of July, 2020, to the Electoral Committee. Both letters were sturdily disregarded and ignored by the ECNBA. Legitimacy is not only a product of popular acceptability, but it is also a product of legality and constitutionality. Indeed, popular acceptability will stand on nothing if there is no legal and constitutional legitimacy as you cannot build something on nothing and expect it to stand.

NIGERIAN BAR ASSOCIATION AND CULTURE OF IMPUNITY

The motto of NBA as enshrined in the Constitution of the Association is Promoting the Rule of Law. In his address to the Annual General Meeting of the NBA on 28th of August, 2020, Mr. Paul Usoro, SAN, said surprisingly “Whatever one may say about those elections, one thing that cannot be taken away from it is that that was the first ever of our National Elections where everyone was turned into Election monitors as well as electoral and returning officers all rolled into one …. For most of our members and based on the comments I have received, this was an exhilarating experience in transparency. The transparency was unparallel and we are expecting that subsequent Bar Elections will build on that quality of transparency.” My friend Mr. Paul Usoro certainly did not see what many others saw. He failed to realize that election is a process culminating with voting. He ought not to have directed his mind only to the voting process to the exclusion of the other various stages leading to the voting process.

Rule of Law in all its ramification presupposes that the Law is supreme and that everything must be done according to law and the law in this instance include the Constitution of the Nigerian Bar Association, 2015, as amended. It includes recognised practices and conventions that enthrone and guarantee Due Process as against arbitrariness, impunity, lawlessness, abuse of office and misuse of power as clearly demonstrated in the conduct of the just concluded 2020 National Officers Election. Transparency in relation to the just concluded Election exists only in the fertile imagination of the out-gone President.

The leaders of the Bar must come together and take decisive steps in other to restore the lost glory, honour and integrity of the Association. If we are complacent in doing this, life in its own way will force decisions on us. In 2016, they superintended over a rigged election which ended in Court. In 2018, they superintended over an election which ended in both civil suit and criminal charges in Court. The fact that the Court cases failed to achieve any success emboldened the perpetrators to go to higher levels of brazen impunity as witnessed in the 2020 Election.

The result of these reckless actions on the part of the few who have vowed to secure the appointment of NBA President through sham elections may be delayed but is never lost. However, it must be recognised by all our members that the character of any leader determines the character of the organisation that he leads and that everything rises and falls with leadership. It is not surprising that Nigerian Bar Association has contributed nothing to nation-building in the last few years. The Association has been stuck at the zero-ground level of low public esteem – in the words of a concerned member of the Bar. After all, anyone who will move the world must first move himself.

MOVING FORWARD

Like I said in my Statement of Tuesday, 25th August, 2020 and in my characteristic manner, “I was already planning to stop talking about what the devil has done regarding this election and begin to talk about what God will do in response to the uncountable appeals and persuasions from highly respected members of the Profession” including some of the members of the Board of Trustees that I hold in very high esteem. I am a builder and a peace-maker. I am never desperate about anything neither do I pursue anything at all cost. I have always allowed God to have His way and establish His will concerning me. My Christian faith teaches me the virtue not to cry behind a closed door to deprive myself the opportunity of seeing the seven doors that are wide open.

I want to plead with all sense of responsibility to all my friends, colleagues and supporters who worked so hard with me nationwide during the electioneering process, those whose votes were either diverted, suppressed, stolen or who were out rightly disenfranchised, and all fair-minded members of the Association who believe that enough is enough and that this Bi-Annual show of shame must stop by pursuing this case to its logical conclusion to please, let us put the July 2020 Presidential Election of the NBA behind us. I have strongly stood against going to Court in this matter despite serious pressure even though I am fully persuaded that simple Originating Summons will set aside this Election, judging by the faulty process that lead to the Election.

Like I have said several times, for me, the Presidency of the NBA is not an end in itself but a means to an end to secure the future of our Profession by strengthening the Association’s relevance to its members, by vigorously pursuing the defence and promotion of the Rule of Law in our Nation, by protecting, promoting and defending the independence of the Legal Profession in general and in particular the independence of Lawyers and Judges in the practice of their Profession and by taking pro-active efforts to change the negative perception about the Legal Profession by members of the public. This is the whole reason for my involvement in the process. It is to give service and I believe this does not warrant my going to court so that I can give. After all, despite the effort of the aggrieved members to the election fraud of 2018 which resulted in filing both civil suits and criminal charges in Court, the beneficiary of the election has just handed over few days ago. My decision to rest the case here is a product of a very careful consideration of all that I have stated above including in particular the fact that I am a peace maker and one of the builders of the Association with a view to preserving whatever is left of the Nigerian Bar Association. After all, “a living Dog is better than a dead Lion.”

EXPRESSION OF GRATITUDE

To all my colleagues both at the inner Bar and outer Bar, friends, members of various DASAN Committees, dedicated supporters and followers on various social media platforms, l once again wish to express my heartfelt gratitude and profound appreciation to each and everyone of you for the wonderful role you played in our attempt to re-position the Association by making it a positive catalyst for the Legal Profession and the development of our Nation. We were going there to change the ways and show the path to follow, to demonstrate the meaning of true leadership in purity, honesty of purpose and integrity.

Please note that we have built a strong bond of friendship, brotherhood and sisterhood thereby creating relationships and connections throughout the Nation. I urge you all to continue in this spirit of friendship and keep our connections active as we are all together in this journey of life and career fulfilment in the true spirit of being “our brother’s keeper.” Remember, love never gives up. It never loses faith. It is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance. Let us remain in love by keeping in touch with one another.

CONCLUSION

Let me conclude with the statement made by Barack Obama, former President of the United States of America, when he visited Japan. He got to Hiroshima and remembered the events of World War II and the destruction and devastation wrought on Hiroshima on August 6, 1945 and said: “We have a responsibility to look directly into history and ask: What must we do differently to achieve a better result?” I do hope that the Board of Trustees appreciates the need to do things differently henceforth in NBA; hence, their promise and willingness to accept responsibility for electoral transformation. I shall continue to join well-meaning members of the Association where I can on this restoration effort to rebuild our Association and repackage the image of our beloved Profession.

Dele Adesina, SAN, FCI Arb.
Dated Monday 31st August, 2020.

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10 people who literally came back to life

By Lauren Cahn

Thanks to state-of-the-art medical technology—like defibrillators in nearly every place of business—life after death is more possible than ever. Check out these incredible tales from the other side—and what the survivors experienced.

Second chances

It’s easy to shrug off those miraculous stories about people who were effectively dead and then returned to life. But sometimes, this really does happen, and it’s not a hoax but is in fact reality! Sometimes modern medicine proves its worth; other times the shocking recovery amazes even the doctors. Here are some incredible-but-true stories of people who were, for all intents and purposes, dead—until they weren’t.

His heart had been stopped for nearly a minute

His heart had been stopped for nearly a minute
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Paul Finkelstein, a 45-year-old lawyer, was in court when he began having trouble breathing. A colleague called emergency services and fed him baby aspirin—chewing it can prevent clotting that can further damage the heart. Nonetheless, Finkelstein suffered a full cardiac arrest and flatlined. He was clinically dead for 43 seconds before a defibrillator brought him back. “I came back for Peri,” he tells Reader’s Digest nine years later: Peri is his daughter who battles a form of muscular dystrophy; she remains Finkelstein’s inspiration to continue.

He survived a “widowmaker”

He survived a “widowmaker”
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Three years ago, Bobby Galvan was gardening when he collapsed. He wasn’t even 50, but he had suffered what’s known as a “widowmaker”—a massive heart attack caused by an arterial blockage. Bobby’s situation was doubly bad: Two of his three major arteries were 100 per cent blocked. But miraculously, he was revived and rushed to hospital, where he survived two surgeries to repair the blockage and the damage. He’s alive and well today.

Check out these handy tips to survive just about anything.

She was dead from heart failure; she’s alive today

She was dead from heart failure; she’s alive today
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“On Christmas Day of 2013, I died of heart failure,” Claire Goodwin tells Reader’s Digest. Her death was a culmination of a years-long battle with anorexia nervosa and a form of bulimia. Five years later, she recalls the experience as quiet: She felt relief, but she also felt like she was underwater. “I was in the hospital, so thankfully I was resuscitated in time to avoid brain damage or other lasting effects.” Today at 26, Claire has fully recovered and is grateful for a second chance.

He was killed by a rocket-propelled grenade (RPG), alive today

He was killed by a rocket-propelled grenade (RPG), alive today
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Yonas Hagos was 10 when he emigrated from a Sudanese refugee camp. After growing up in the United States, he joined the Army—and then he made the ultimate sacrifice: Hagos was hit by a rocket-propelled grenade and was clinically dead for 45 seconds. He remembers nothing of those seconds spent on the other side. “When I gained consciousness, all that mattered was that I was fighting for my life.” Hagos was awarded a Purple Heart and is now a successful business owner of a pet store.

His heart stopped, but CPR and an AED saved his life

His heart stopped, but CPR and an AED saved his life
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Photographer Neil Carew‘s heart stopped in February 2018 while he was setting up a photo shoot at a local school. Quick-thinking school staffers called an ambulance and began performing CPR on the 74-year-old. The principal grabbed an AED and gave it to the nurse to shock Neil’s heart into restarting. It worked, Neil tells Reader’s Digest: “If not for that AED, I’d be six feet under.”

He spent time in heaven

He spent time in heaven
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Trenton McKinley is a 13-year-old boy who was resuscitated after being dead for 15 minutes following a devastating dune buggy accident. Doctors were certain Trenton’s 15 minutes of flat-line had irreversibly damaged his brain, and for the next several days, he was kept on life support while his family made the decision to donate his organs to five children in need. But then Trenton began showing signs of cognition, and when he was fully awake, he told his family he’d seen heaven. Although Trenton suffers from pain and seizures and has lost 22 kilograms, he still has a sense of humour, reports Fox10 News.

Meet 6 people who’ve lived before—their chilling reincarnation stories are amazing!

He was hit by a car and left for dead

He was hit by a car and left for dead
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In February 2018, private equity fund manager Robin Lee Allen had just left a meditation class when he realised a car was coming at him the wrong way down a one-way street. Allen tried to dive out of the way, but the car—whose driver turned out to be drunk—hit him anyway. Thankfully, Allen has no memory of the impact; he does remember coming to after being revived by a defibrillator and hearing the EMT say, “Don’t cut off all of his clothes here—there are too many people taking pictures.”

She survived a suicide attempt

She survived a suicide attempt
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Kathryn Goetze narrowly survived a suicide attempt in her early 20s. “It was alcohol and a ton of pills, and I actually left my body and could see myself lying there.” The next thing she remembers is being back inside her own body, and vomiting into the toilet. She made the attempt just a few years after her father had committed suicide. In the 20 years since these events, Kathryn was inspired to create a global charity for mental health and a curriculum for teaching hope. “Clearly it was not my time,” she says. “There was work to be done.”

She was stillborn

She was stillborn
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Author Milana Perepyolkina entered this world with no heartbeat, no breath, and blue skin. The doctors handed Milana to her mother, giving her a chance to say goodbye. “She held me in her arms, giving me all the love she had for the daughter she would not watch grow up, not dress in beautiful skirts, not sing lullabies to, not braid her hair, not play dolls with her.” And then—Milana’s heart started beating. “My mother tells me I looked at her like an adult, with wisdom, with understanding. Her love brought me back to life.”

She passed away under the knife

She passed away under the knife
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In 2013, nurse Becky Lockridge, was undergoing a liver resection. While she was under anaesthesia, her heart stopped. It’s the only part of the surgery Becky remembers. “My late grandmother appeared before me and insisted I return,” she tells Reader’s Digest. “I thought of my two sons, for whom I’m a single mother, and I knew she was right.”

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10 compliments your kids really need to hear

By PJ Feinstein

You may be generous with the compliments, but are you saying the right things? Our experts explain how making small changes to how you compliment your child can have a big impact on their self-esteem.

“Great job on the A+!”

When your child earns an A+ on an assignment, it can be hard to stop yourself from exclaiming, “You’re so incredibly smart!” But using strong adverbs and adjectives like “incredibly” or “amazing” can actually have a negative effect on kids, says Dr Nicholas Westers, a clinical child psychologist. For children with low self-esteem, he explains, “inflated praise may inadvertently pressure them to perform exceptionally well at all times,” and they may start avoiding more challenging tasks in order to preserve their sense of self.

“You really gave it your all!”

“You really gave it your all!”
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However, the solution isn’t as simple as dropping the adjectives and adverbs. According to Dr Westers, person-oriented praise, i.e. “You’re so smart!” or “You’re the best!” addresses what kids with low self-esteem perceive as unchangeable traits, such as intelligence or athleticism. “As a result, they may come to believe, ‘If I can do it, I’m smart. Therefore, if I can’t do it, I’m not smart,’” he says. Process-oriented praise, (such as, “I can see how hard you’re trying”) on the other hand, “leads children to later seek challenging tasks because they believe they can meet these realistic expectations.”

“You won the championship! Only one out of 12 teams gets to say that!”

“You won the championship! Only one out of 12 teams gets to say that!”
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Regardless of their self-esteem, no child should be given more praise than is warranted. “Inflated praise is easily seen for what it is – an exaggeration. It can eventually make our kids either mistrust us or discount what we say as parents,” says Dr Erin Clabough, author of Second Nature: How Parents Can Use Neuroscience to Help Kids Develop Empathy, Creativity, and Self-Control. When a child with low self-esteem does something well, give accurate praise but give them a boost by commenting on how the external world might see it: “You won the soccer championship game! Only one team out of 12 gets to say that!”

“You took so many shots on goal!”

“You took so many shots on goal!”
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Even in the worst situations, something always goes well, says Dr Clabough. Rather than spending time on what went wrong, look for the positive and compliment your kid for what they did well. “Praise the elements of an action you want to see again whether it’s a win or a loss,” she says. The team might have lost the game, but it was great to watch him or her take a shot at goal four times.

Here are 26 old-time compliments we wish could come back.

“Great job studying and trying your best”

“Great job studying and trying your best”
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“It’s great that your grade went up to a B, but I know that you can earn an A if you work harder next time.” Sound familiar? “Praise losses effectiveness when it is coupled with comments that negate the message,” says Dr Mayra Mendez. “Following praise with added comments such as ‘…better than you did before,’ ‘…next time you will do even better,’ or ‘…try to be #1 and win next time’ undermines the praise comment and compromises the child’s ability to positively process and integrate feeling good about themselves,” she explains. Instead, try, “Great job studying and trying your best to learn the material.”

Watch out for these compliments that are actually insults.

“You should feel proud of yourself”

“You should feel proud of yourself”
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“There’s a difference between telling someone they did a good job and telling someone that they’re a genius,” says Saba Harouni Lurie, a marriage and family therapist. Rather than complimenting a child on her brilliance because she got a good grade on a science project, Lurie suggests keeping your compliment grounded in reality: “You did a good job! You worked really hard on this project, and I hope you feel proud of what you have accomplished.” According to Lurie, “Non-inflated praise gives the child the opportunity to feel proud of themselves without feeling pressured to perform at impossibly high standards in the future.”

“You’re helping our home run smoothly”

“You’re helping our home run smoothly”
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It may be awesome that your daughter is old enough to empty the dishwasher as part of her daily chores, but you don’t need to be effusive with your compliments. Instead, Dr Wendela Whitcomb Marsh, author of The ABCs of Autism in the Classroom: Setting the Stage for Success, suggests acknowledging that she did what she was supposed to do without making a big deal out of it. “Lavishing high praise on everyday tasks may seem patronising,” explains Dr Marsh. Instead, emphasise the natural consequence of the chore by saying, “I see you emptied the dishwasher, thank you. Now I can put the dirty dishes in so they don’t pile.”

“I can tell you worked hard on this”

“I can tell you worked hard on this”
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It may be easy to exclaim “It’s perfect!” every time your child draws a picture but it’s not in their best interest. “If they believe that everything they do is perfect, even when they don’t try very hard, they may just coast through life expecting to be appreciated for even the feeblest effort,” says Dr Marsh. An equally easy fix is to make an observation: “I can see that you took your time instead of rushing,” or “I see you put a lot of thought and feeling into your picture.”

“Jack had a great game, and we are so proud of him”

“Jack had a great game, and we are so proud of him”
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If you’re proud of your child, let other people know – especially when they’re nearby. “An excellent way to build self-esteem in children is to make sure they hear you speaking positively about them,” says Stephanie Leclair, a curriculum expert. A family Facetime call with grandma and grandpa is an excellent opportunity to boast that your son has been practising his ball skills every day after school and, as a result, scored a basket at his last game.

“I love you no matter what”

“I love you no matter what”
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In addition to giving thoughtful praise, parents should conscientiously tell their children “I love you” on a regular basis. But parents should be mindful to express their love “in a way that communicates their love is unconditional and not attached to anything they do or do not do,” says Dr Westers. Children should know that they are loved and be treated with kindness regardless of their looks, behaviours, or achievements.

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11 ways the most productive people handle their emails

By Marissa Laliberte

Even though it’s meant as a tool for productivity, emails often end up as nothing more than a distraction. Productivity expert Jocelyn K. Glei explains how to use email more effectively in her book Unsubscribe: How to Kill Email Anxiety, Avoid Distractions, and Get Real Work Done.

An empty inbox is never their goal

Email is a crucial factor in accomplishing your goals, but in and of itself, it isn’t meaningful. Sure, having zero unread messages gives you short-term satisfaction, but an empty inbox says nothing about your productivity. In fact, you’ll end up fighting a losing battle as it starts to refill immediately. Keep your focus on your important messages, and don’t stress if you don’t get to read every single email that comes your way. “If you can accept that it’s just not going to happen, you’ve taken the first step towards removing yourself from the productivity rat race,” writes Glei. “In the grand scheme of things, email is just one small part of doing great work.”

They start their day with more meaningful work

They start their day with more meaningful work
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Checking your email first thing in the morning immediately frames your day around other people’s demands. Rather than heading straight for your unread messages, take advantage of the peak energy you have when you first get to the office by first working on your most meaningful tasks for at least an hour. Then, when you finally do open your inbox, you’ll already be well into a productive day.

They cut down on the back-and-forth

They cut down on the back-and-forth
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Streamline your emails by answering each message as fully as you can, so the receiver has less need to send follow-up questions. For instance, if a co-worker asks you to lunch, instead of reacting with a simple “Sure!” specify a date, time and location that work for you. Your colleague can give a simple yes or no, rather than stretching the conversation out for several more messages.

Email isn’t their only way to communicate

Email isn’t their only way to communicate
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Because you can’t read tone or body language in a written message, email can lead to misinterpretations and frustration. When you’re having a delicate conversation, brainstorming, or making complex decisions, skip the email chain and pick up the phone or drop into your co-worker’s office. “You’ll be rescuing yourself, and everyone else, from those annoying email threads that drag on for 15-20 messages and constantly interrupt you throughout the day,” writes Glei.

They use the two-minute rule

They use the two-minute rule
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Follow this rule of thumb from productivity expert David Allen: If you can finish your response in two minutes, send it right away. If you procrastinate, you’ll end up using more effort to find it and reprocess it later. “This does not mean you should respond to all emails that take less than two minutes,” writes Glei, “rather, it means that you should respond to all emails that you can process quickly and that relate to ‘people who matter’ or your meaningful work goals.” Anything that isn’t a priority can wait until later – if you happen to have time.

Now memorise these 10 attributes of wildly successful people.

Folders are their friends

Folders are their friends
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With just one inbox folder, your messages will be jumbled into one chaotic void. Organise your emails into folders that will keep you on track. One easy setup: ‘reply’ for ones you need to respond to, ‘waiting’ for those that you need to hear back from, and ‘archive’ for messages you might reference later. Consider putting your spam emails into a specific folder.

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They turn off notifications

They turn off notifications
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“There are two types of emailers: ‘reactors’ who rely on notifications and near-constant monitoring of their inboxes to nibble away at their emails throughout the day, and ‘batchers’, who set aside specific chunks of time to power through their emails so they can ignore it the rest of the day,” writes Glei. As soon as a new email pops on reactors’ screens, their focus is gone, so turn off your own notifications to cut down on distractions. Instead, make yourself a batcher by setting aside two or three 30 to 60-minute chunks every day to check and reply to emails.

They use a different calendar

They use a different calendar
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If your calendar is linked to your email, you might be hesitant in turning off all notifications. Create a loophole by syncing your email calendar with a separate calendar app. Turn notifications on for the app only – you’ll get all the event alerts you need, without the distracting email pop-ups.

Want to sound smarter? Here are 11 phrases that will make you more successful at work.

They only get notifications from certain people

They only get notifications from certain people
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While it’s easy enough to hold off on a response to a client for a few hours, your boss might need a faster reply. Gmail and iPhone apps allow you to select priority senders, setting off notifications for only those people. Set up your own to keep you focused without stressing that you could be missing an urgent message.

They don’t let others’ stress get to them

They don’t let others’ stress get to them
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Other people have different schedules and priorities to you, so if you receive an urgent-sounding email when you’re pressed for time, you have two choices: sacrifice your own productivity to switch tasks, or keep working with the nagging feeling that the sender is getting impatient. To satisfy the sender, rattle off a quick reply acknowledging his or her concerns, and give an estimate of when you’ll be able to address it fully. “People crave context. If you merely help them understand where their email sits within your workload, they can be surprisingly understanding,” writes Glei. “What’s more, expectation-setting emails can help you relax by allowing you to reassert control over your schedule and release any feeling of obligation about meeting someone else’s timetable.”

They prioritise their replies

They prioritise their replies
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Consider your relationship to the sender when you’re going through your messages. Answer an email to your boss quickly and thoughtfully, but don’t kill yourself over your wording to someone you’ve never met – in fact, you shouldn’t feel obligated to reply to everyone in the first place. “Your working life and your credibility are built on relationships, be mindful of them,” writes Glei.

They don’t let emails keep them from real work

They don’t let emails keep them from real work
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“If you got 200+ letters a day, you would never think it was realistic to respond to all of them. Why should emails be any different?” writes Glei. “Politely responding to every single email you receive is all well and good, but not if it makes you a stranger to your own goals.”

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5 Real-Life News Stories I Covered that Inspired My Mystery Fiction

R. G. Belsky

I’ve spent most of my life covering the news as a journalist. I worked at the New York PostNew York Daily NewsStar magazine and NBC News. I was there for all of the big crime stories over the past several decades: Son of Sam, O. J. Simpson, John Lennon, Jon Benet, and so many others.

Now, I make my living writing mystery fiction.

My newest suspense thriller, Yesterday’s News, is about a TV journalist obsessed with finding out the answers to a legendary missing child cold case. Before that, I wrote a series about a New York City newspaper reporter who breaks Page 1 crime stories. I like to write about what I know.

So whenever people have asked me where I got the ideas for my mystery novels, I always give them the same answer: “Hey, I just went to work in the newsroom every day!”

Son of Sam

The most sensational serial killer case ever. Loner postal employee holds a city in terror for a year, randomly shoots women and young couples on the streets of New York, talks to a dog, writes taunting letters to the media, and is eventually caught because of a simple parking ticket. What mystery writer could make up a story like that? Well, I tried. My suspense thriller Blonde Ice (2016) is about a blonde woman serial killer who targets men for death the same way Son of Sam used to do with women. One reason I did this is that there have been very few women serial killers who murder just for the thrill of it—either in real life or fiction—so I created one based on some of my memories from covering the Son of Sam murder spree.

The Disappearance of Etan Patz

Etan’s parents, Stanley and Julie Patz, in 1980. Photo Credit: John Sotomayor / The New York Times

My latest mystery, Yesterday’s News, is about the disappearance of an 11-year-old girl named Lucy Devlin off the streets of New York City. As a young journalist, I covered the legendary case of Etan Patz, a 6-year-old boy who vanished on his way to school. For years afterward, there were false leads and false hopes that he might somehow still be alive. But finally, a man was convicted for the murder of Etan Patz, which at least gave his grieving family some kind of closure. My book is about a different kind of missing child case in which there is no closure for anyone involved—including my reporter covering the story, Clare Carlson—and about how, when that happens, it can be a tragedy even worse than murder.

John Lennon’s Murder

The shooting of John Lennon outside his New York apartment was a horrifying event, but there was no real mystery about it. The killer, Mark David Chapman, was a deluded stalker who killed the former Beatle for no apparent reason. But when I wrote my own celebrity murder mystery—about a Hollywood actress murdered on the street, similar to the way Lennon died—I decided to do a “what if?” What if the stalker didn’t really do it? What if there was another reason why it happened? What if there were other celebrity victims killed for the same reason? The result was my mystery novel Shooting for the Stars.

The Central Park Jogger

The new book I’m working on now, The Perfect Victim, is about a high-profile woman crime victim who wants to find out what actually happened to her. Probably the most famous real-life New York City crime victim was the Central Park Jogger—a story I covered back in the late ‘80s. She was a young woman brutally attacked and left for dead while jogging in Central Park. Five men went to jail for the crime but were later exonerated, and another man was eventually convicted. I decided to write a fiction story about a woman victim like that who is determined to find out the truth about her case.

Headless Body in Topless Bar

The headline “Headless Body in Topless Bar” ran on the New York Post’s front page on April 15, 1983.

This is the most famous—or infamous—tabloid headline ever, and I was part of the New York Post newsroom that produced the story. It was about a man who held up a topless bar, shot the owner to death, and then cut off the victim’s head and took it with him for some inexplicable reason. Yep, you heard that all right. So how is this an inspiration for my mystery novels? It shows that any fictional scenario I write—no matter how far-fetched and implausible it might seem—is possible. I mean if “Headless Body in Topless Bar” really happened, then I can make up anything on the pages of my novels!

Read an excerpt from Yesterday’s News!

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Prince Harry: Social media is dividing us. Together, we can redesign it

By Prince Harry The Duke Of Sussex

Amid a crisis of health, hate, and truth online, companies need to take a stand for a more compassionate digital world, writes Prince Harry, the Duke of Sussex.

A little over four weeks ago, my wife and I started calling business leaders, heads of major corporations, and chief marketing officers at brands and organisations we all use in our daily lives.

Our message was clear: The digital landscape is unwell and companies like yours have the chance to reconsider your role in funding and supporting online platforms that have contributed to, stoked, and created the conditions for a crisis of hate, a crisis of health, and a crisis of truth.

We did this at the same time as the launch of a civil rights and racial justice campaign called Stop Hate For Profit, which sought to change online policies around hate speech—in this case, policies at Facebook—by urging companies that regularly purchase digital ads on the platform to withhold their advertising spending for the month of July. As of the end of last month, the campaign (led by respected organisations such as the Anti-Defamation League, Color of Change, and the NAACP) sent a $7 billion message through withheld ad dollars.

Some may ask why a change campaign would take aim at online advertising. Well, many of us love and enjoy social media. It’s a seemingly free resource for connecting, sharing, and organising. But it’s not actually free; the cost is high. Every time you click, they learn more about you. Our information, private data, and unknown habits are traded on for advertising space and dollars. The price we’re all paying is much higher than it appears. Whereas normally we’re the consumer buying a product, in this ever-changing digital world, we are the product.

While companies made their own decisions about what to do in July, we felt it necessary to say our part about the rise of an unchecked and divisive attention economy. We’ve always believed that individuals and communities thrive when the frameworks around them are built from compassion, trust, and well-being. Sadly, this belief is at odds with much of what is being experienced by people on social media.

From conversations with experts in this space, we believe we have to remodel the architecture of our online community in a way defined more by compassion than hate; by truth instead of misinformation; by equity and inclusiveness instead of injustice and fearmongering; by free, rather than weaponised, speech. This remodeling must include industry leaders from all areas drawing a line in the sand against unacceptable online practices as well as being active participants in the process of establishing new standards for our online world. Companies that purchase online ads must also recognise that our digital world has an impact on the physical world—on our collective health, on our democracies, on the ways we think and interact with each other, on how we process and trust information. Because, if we are susceptible to the coercive forces in digital spaces, then we have to ask ourselves—what does this mean for our children? As a father, this is especially concerning to me.

In the 1970s, there was a groundbreaking study on the societal effects of lead exposure and kids. The research found a clear connection between lead accumulation in children and their mental development. There’s no debate over the dangers of lead today, but at the time, the development was met with strong resistance from industry leaders (lead was used widespread in products such as gas, house paint, and water pipes). Eventually, sweeping health and environmental reforms were put in place to change this. We knew something was harmful to the health of our children, so we made the necessary changes to keep them safe, healthy, and well.

Researchers I’ve spoken with are studying how social media affects people—particularly young people—and I believe the book of data that we will look back on one day will be incredibly troubling.

WHEN WE DO THE RIGHT THING, WHEN WE CREATE SAFE SPACES BOTH ONLINE AND OFF—EVERYONE WINS.

Around the world, for many reasons, we are at turning point—one that has the potential to be transformative. In all areas of life, a rebuilding of compassionate, trustworthy communities needs to be at the heart of where we go. And this approach must extend to the digital community, which billions of us participate in every day. But it shouldn’t be punitive. When we do the right thing, when we create safe spaces both online and off—everyone wins. Even the platforms themselves.

Meghan and I heard similar arguments made by humane tech leaders with whom we convened at Stanford University earlier this year, by internet law experts, by neuroscientists, and most importantly by young people who have grown up in a fully connected world.

We have an opportunity to do better and remake the digital world, to look at the past and use it to inform the future. We must take a critical eye to the last two decades, where advancements in technology and media have outgrown many of the antiquated guardrails that once ensured they were being designed and used appropriately. It shouldn’t be seen as a coincidence that the rise of social media has been matched by a rise in division amongst us globally. Social media’s own algorithms and recommendation tools can drive people down paths toward radicalism and extremism that they might not have taken otherwise.

There are billions of people right now—in the midst of a global pandemic that has taken hundreds of thousands of lives—who rely on algorithmically driven information feeds to make judgments about fact vs. fiction, about truth vs. lies. One could argue that access to accurate information is more important now than any other time in modern history. And yet, the very places that allow disinformation to spread seem to throw their arms up when asked to take responsibility and find solutions.

We all need a better online experience. We’ve spoken with leaders across the racial justice movement, experts in humane tech, and advocates of mental health. And the collective opinion is abundantly clear: We do not have the luxury of time.

We need meaningful digital reform, and while the role of policymakers and regulators is important, we can’t just wait for them to take the next steps. This is a moment for companies around the world—companies with business and advertising models directly tied to digital platforms—to consider how they can bring about reform to ensure the betterment of all.

WE HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO DO BETTER AND REMAKE THE DIGITAL WORLD, TO LOOK AT THE PAST AND USE IT TO INFORM THE FUTURE.

It was reported recently that, for the first time, spending on digital advertising is set to eclipse ad spending in traditional media. Think about what this means. The standards and practices advertisers rely upon when placing their commercials on television, for example, do not apply when it comes to the online space—arguably, the largest broadcaster in the world. And for the first time in history, the ad spend in this relatively lawless space is beginning to overshadow the more traditional spaces. No manufacturer is likely placing their television soap ad next to this type of toxicity, yet due to the nature of the digital world, that advertisement could be sandwiched between inciting propaganda.

So there is huge value in advertisers sitting at the table with advocacy leaders, with policy leaders, with civil society leaders, in search of solutions that strengthen the digital community while protecting its free and open nature.

For companies that purchase online ads, it is one thing to unequivocally disavow hate and racism, white nationalism and anti-Semitism, dangerous misinformation, and a well-established online culture that promotes violence and bigotry. It is another thing for them to use their leverage, including through their advertising dollars, to demand change from the very places that give a safe haven and vehicle of propagation to hate and division. We’re hopeful to see this approach amongst industry leaders become reality. For one, the industry group GARM—the Global Alliance for Responsible Media—has committed to evaluating standards and definitions around online hate speech.

But this is just the beginning. And our hope is that it’s the beginning of a movement where we, as people, place community and connection, tolerance and empathy, and joy and kindness above all. The internet has enabled us to be joined together. We are now plugged into a vast nervous system that, yes, reflects our good, but too often also magnifies and fuels our bad. We can—and must—encourage these platforms to redesign themselves in a more responsible and compassionate way. The world will feel it, and we will all benefit from it.

Prince Harry is the Duke of Sussex.

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7 Signs You May Have Had COVID-19 Without Realizing It, According to Doctors

Pay attention to any lingering symptoms from that “bad cold.”

By Korin Miller

Whether you had a “bad cold” this winter or recently endured a cough that would not quit, it’s only natural to wonder if you might have had COVID-19 without realizing it. That’s especially true now that infectious disease experts say the virus was likely already spreading before cities started to lock down and put social distancing orders in place.

“As the weeks progress, it’s become evident that this is a virus that was widespread throughout our country, particularly in more populated areas, sooner than we thought,” says William Schaffner, M.D., an infectious disease specialist and professor at the Vanderbilt University School of Medicine.

So, could you have had COVID-19 without realizing it? It’s possible. “Most people who have coronavirus have an uncomplicated case of infection, and it could be indistinguishable from the cold or influenza,” explains infectious disease expert Amesh A. Adalja, M.D., senior scholar at the Johns Hopkins Center for Health Security. Plus, some people have no symptoms at all—up to 40% of infections, according to estimates from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

Unfortunately, there’s no way to know with 100% certainty if that illness you dealt with last winter was COVID-19 or if you happened to pick up an asymptomatic case at some time. But experts say some signs can be tip-offs that you might have had COVID-19 already. Here are the top ones to know, plus what it means for immunity.

1. You had a “bad cold.”

Early in the pandemic, people believed that COVID-19 didn’t start circulating in the U.S. until late February and March. New research from the University of Texas suggests otherwise. For the study, scientists analyzed throat swabs taken last winter in people who had suspected flu cases. These swabs were done in Wuhan, China (where the novel coronavirus originated) and Seattle, Washington (where the first case of COVID-19 was confirmed in the U.S.).

The researchers discovered that for every two cases of the flu, there was one case of COVID-19. As a result, they believe COVID-19 likely arrived in the U.S. sometime around Christmas.

“It took longer to get out to rural areas so, if you were on a farm this winter and you had the sniffles, you probably just had a cold. If you were in New York City or another major city, you might have had a COVID infection and never knew it,” Dr. Schaffner says.

It can be tough to distinguish a cold from a mild form of COVID-19 without a test, depending on which symptoms you experience, he says, but colds don’t typically cause shortness of breath, severe headaches, or gastrointestinal symptoms like COVID-19 can. Here’s the full list of the CDC’s official symptoms:

  • Fever or chills
  • Cough
  • Shortness of breath or difficulty breathing
  • Fatigue
  • Muscle or body aches
  • Headache
  • New loss of taste or smell
  • Sore throat
  • Congestion or runny nose
  • Nausea or vomiting
  • Diarrhea

2. You lost your sense of smell or taste at one point.

Loss of smell and taste has been a big hallmark of COVID-19. While this symptom doesn’t occur for everyone, Dr. Adalja points out that it’s now strongly linked with the novel coronavirus.

Preliminary data from the American Academy of Otolaryngology-Head and Neck Surgery (AAO-HNS) found that, in COVID-19 patients who lost their sense of smell, 27% had “some improvement” within about seven days, while most were better within 10 days.

Worth noting: It’s also possible to temporarily lose these senses with other respiratory conditions, like a cold, the flu, a sinus infection, or even with seasonal allergies. But experts say that the symptom can linger in some people and last for months after recovering from COVID-19.

3. You’ve been dealing with unexplained hair loss.

This hasn’t been widely studied in the context of COVID-19, but many people who have recovered from the virus are reporting issues with hair loss. Actress Alyssa Milano, who has been suffering from COVID-19 symptoms for months, shared a video of herself on Instagram in early August repeatedly brushing out large clumps of hair after she showered.

“There are definitely people who got infected and didn’t notice.”

Members of Survivor Corps, the Facebook support group for people who have had COVID-19, have also talked about experiencing hair loss months after recovering from the virus. It’s due to a condition known as telogen effluvium, and it can be caused by a slew of factors, including pregnancy, extreme stress, weight loss, and illnesses other than COVID-19, Dr. Adalja says.

It’s unlikely that you would just lose more hair than usual without having other COVID-19 symptoms, like a cough or fever, Dr. Adalja says. It’s also important to note that hair loss can happen from stress in general, he says—and there’s been a lot of stress due to the pandemic. If you’re experiencing hair loss, it’s possible it’s due to an unknown COVID infection, a build-up of stress during uncertain times, or another underlying issue.

4. You feel breathless sometimes.

Research published in the journal JAMA has found that people with COVID-19 can have after-effects of the virus, including shortness of breath. It’s not entirely clear why at this point or how long this can last, but it’s likely due to lasting inflammation in the lungs.

“This is one of the well-known lingering effects in people who were diagnosed with COVID-19,” Dr. Schaffner says. “If you have this, well, perhaps that illness you experienced before was actually COVID.” If you’re experiencing shortness of breath, call your primary care physician for guidance or ask for a referral to a pulmonologist. They can often prescribe medications and treatments, like an inhaler, that can help, Dr. Schaffner says.

5. You have a cough that will not go away.

A lingering cough is another symptom that people who participated in the JAMA study reported. The cough is often dry, meaning that nothing comes up, like like phlegm or mucus, Dr. Adalja says. This is fairly common: Data from the CDC found that 43% of people who had COVID-19 still had a cough 14 to 21 days after getting a positive test for the virus.

6. You’re really, really tired.

This is one of the biggest lingering effects after a person has COVID-19, according to the JAMA study. That study found that 53% of patients said they were struggling with fatigue around 60 days after they first showed signs of the virus.

“We’re seeing some people who had mild illness who have fatigue for some period of time,” Dr. Adalja says. But, he says, it’s not entirely clear right now why this happens. It could be the way a person’s immune system reacts to the virus, or it could simply be the way the virus works in the body.

Keep in mind that fatigue is a really common issue and can be a sign of many different health issues (including, of course, not getting enough sleep). Like hair loss, people who experience fatigue due to COVID-19 would have also had other symptoms of the virus in the past, Dr. Adalja says.

7. You have unusual symptoms that seem to be lasting forever.

Experts stress that COVID-19 is still a new virus, so doctors and scientists are learning more about it all the time. Research on lasting effects of the virus is ongoing, and it’s difficult for doctors to say at this time that having certain symptoms could mean you had a COVID-19 infection, while others don’t, Dr. Adalja says.

It’s worth mentioning that some people have experienced heart issues after contracting the virus. One small study of 100 people who recovered from COVID-19 that was published in JAMA Cardiology did MRIs on former patients and found that 78% had some kind of abnormal heart finding, independent of any pre-existing conditions. This also didn’t seem to be linked to severity of illness, the researchers found. That could show up in a lot of different ways, including random heart palpitations, Dr. Schaffner says, but it could also be unnoticeable.

Of course, there are plenty of other complications that experts may not even know about yet. If you’ve been feeling off and your symptoms are persistent, Dr. Schaffner says it’s a good idea to get checked out by your doctor, whether you think it’s related to COVID-19 or not.

What about an antibody test?

While an antibody test may tell you if you have had COVID-19, they’re not exactly known for their accuracy. “Antibody tests are getting better, but there are a lot of antibody tests out there that are still unreliable,” Dr. Schaffner says. The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) issued an emergency use authorization for these tests in the spring, but later removed certain tests due to “significant clinical performance problems.”

The CDC also stresses that antibody tests “are not 100% accurate and some false positive results or false negative results may occur.” So it’s possible to test positive for COVID-19 antibodies, but not actuallyhave them.

This comes down to various factors. First, there are other coronaviruses known to cause the common cold, and those can get picked up by your antibody test, skewing the results. What’s more, if you’re only in the first days of the infection, antibodies may not be detected at all because your immune system has not built up a response yet. (Learn more about COVID-19 antibodies here.)

Does possibly having COVID-19 in the past mean you won’t get infected again?

While the above signs could be an indication that you had COVID-19, they can also be caused by other illnesses. “Certainly a lingering cough and fatigue are well known to be a consequence of influenza—just because you have those doesn’t mean you had COVID-19,” Dr. Schaffner says.

Ultimately, short of having a positive test for COVID-19 when you’re ill, it’s hard to know with total certainty if you’ve had the virus. Still, “there are definitely people who got infected and didn’t notice,” Dr. Adalja says.

With all that in mind, there is one important thing to remember: Even if you did have COVID-19 in the past, that doesn’t necessarily mean you won’t get infected again. The CDC specifically states that it’s unclear at this time if people can be re-infected with the virus—and the first case of reinfection was just confirmed in Hong Kong.

So, even if you suspect you contracted COVID-19 before the pandemic really hit, it’s important to continue practicing prevention methods like wearing a maskwashing your hands regularly, and practicing social distancing when you can, both to protect yourself and others.

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6 Causes for Vaginal Bumps You Should Know About

By Alyssa Jung

Itchy, painful, or mysterious lumps deserve a trip to the doctor ASAP.

If you’ve ever morphed into a (panicked) Dr. Google, issues with your lady parts probably tops your list of whys. After all, odd smells, itchiness, or mysterious bumps can be anxiety-inducing reasons to schedule an emergency gyno appointment — but that’s exactly what you should do if you notice something unusual happening down there.

“First and foremost, don’t try to be your own doctor! Please seek care and have someone take a look; avoiding care because of embarrassment can lead to worsening symptoms and more extensive treatment,” says Beri Ridgeway, chair of Obstetrics/Gynecology & Women’s Health Institute at Cleveland Clinic. “Trust me — we’ve seen it all — you can’t surprise us, and this is why we’re here.”

Still, we know you might still be tempted to do a little digging (while you wait for your appointment to arrive, of course), so here are some common reasons you may have a lump or bump on your vagina.

It’s an ingrown hair

This is one of the most common causes for bumps on the genital region. When a pubic hair grows back into the skin instead of popping up out of the surface, it can form a small bump that may look red, says Dr. Ridgeway. Though innocent enough, hair bumps can be itchy, tender when swollen, and even filled with pus. Resist the urge to go from Dr. Google to Dr. Pimple Popper — it’ll eventually heal on its own, and popping it or playing with it can make it stick around even longer. Ingrown hairs are often caused by shaving or other hair removal methods, and are more common in women with curly or kinky hair, so if you notice them happening frequently, consider going au naturale for a bit.

You have a cyst

“A cyst can present in many different ways; they appear white in color or clear, they can be tiny or quite large, and they can be located in all areas of the vulva,” says Dr. Ridgeway. A cyst is a pocket of tissue that can be filled with fluid, air, or other material, and often form when a gland or duct becomes clogged — Bartholin cysts in particular form when glands on each side of the vaginal opening become obstructed, forming a fluid-filled lump that can be painful or grow large if it becomes infected. Some women develop cysts after trauma to the vaginal walls (like childbirth or surgery). If a cyst doesn’t go away on its own, your doctor can drain or remove it.

It could be HPV

Certain strains of human papilloma virus (HPV) cause genital warts, which are typically flesh colored and raised and often aren’t accompanied by any other symptoms, says Dr. Ridgeway. These warts can grow anywhere on, in, or around the female genitalia, including the cervix. They may grow clustered together to form a cauliflower-like shape, and can itch.

You might have herpes

Genital herpes is an extremely common sexually transmitted infection — one in six Americans have it. But unless you’re having a full blown outbreak with sores or blisters (which is what you probably think of when you hear “herpes”), it can present with few symptoms other than a small bump you may mistake for a pimple or ingrown hair.

It may be a symptom of cancer

Before you panic, know that your bump is much more likely to be caused by something much less scary, but a bump can be a sign of some types of cancers. Vulvar cancer can produce lumps that are red, pink, or white, and may feel rough or thick to the touch, as a symptom, and vaginal cancer, while rare, can also cause a lump. “It can be scary, but even cancer is curable when diagnosed early,” says Dr. Ridgeway.

It’s possible it’s syphilis

Though not the most common type of sexually transmitted infection, people still get syphilis, and small bumps called gummas can develop as a complication of the disease. Earlier symptoms include a small painless sore and a body-wide rash.

Bottom line: Put your mind at ease ASAP when you notice a bump by paying your doctor a visit. He or she will know the best way to proceed for any of these (or other) diagnoses.

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The Best Essential Oils to Add to Your Bath Routine (and How to Do It Safely)

By Allison Young

Pick the wrong bottle and you could end up irritating your skin.

You run a bath, add a few drops of essential oils, then get in, right? Wrong. Yes, essential oils can dial up your bath, adding stress-relieving, mind-soothing, muscle-relaxing power, but chances are you’ve been doing it all wrong.

Those potent vials are powerful stuff, and using the wrong ones in the wrong way can turn your tranquil tub time into a torture session (if you’ve ever peppered your bath with peppermint, you know exactly what we’re talking about).

So, we’re here to tell you how to do it right — Suzanne Teachey, herbalist and owner of Nectar Apothecary in Prescott, Arizona, offers a few simple tricks to transform your soak, plus three essential oil combos to target all your tub-time goals. Not only will you get the most out of your essential oils, your bath time will go from good to GLOR-I-OUS.

Never add essential oils directly into your bath water.

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“When it comes to putting essential oils in the bath, remember — oil and water don’t mix, which is to say the essential oils are not water soluble,” warns Teachey. Translation: When you climb into the tub, the small drops of oil can adhere to your skin (and tender nether regions!) just as if you’d applied the undiluted oil directly your skin, which can irritate and burn. Ouch!

Always combine essential oils with a carrier oil first.

You don’t want essential oils just to sit on top of the water; you want them dispersed throughout. The best way to do that is combine essential oils in a carrier oil first, like coconut, olive, sunflower, or jojoba. “For a single bath, three to 12 drops of essential oil in a tablespoon (15 ml) of carrier oil is sufficient to create a very aromatic, therapeutic bath,” says Teachey, who suggests stirring the bath before climbing in to help circulate oils.

Don’t use just any essential oils.

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Just because you love a particular scent doesn’t mean you should dump it into your bath. “Even if you use a carrier oil, be extra cautious with oils known to irritate the skin and mucous-membranes,” warns Teachey, who says to avoid cinnamon, clove, oregano, savory, spearmint, thyme (except linalool type), and wintergreen in the bath. Better skin-loving bets: Lavenderchamomile, and rose.

Add essential oils after running the water.

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While it may be tempting to trickle essential oils into your tub when running your bath, wait. “The hot running water will cause the essential oils to escape the bath and scent the bathroom instead,” says Teachey. To get the most from your aromatherapy bath, fill the tub and turn off the water first before adding essential oils for full aromatic effect.

Watch out for a slippery tub.

Adding a carrier oil and essential oil blend to your bath can hydrate your skin (hot water can dry it out), but it can also turn your tub into a slip and slide. Be careful getting out and be sure to clean it afterwards to prevent future falls. Baking soda and castile soap are great de-greasers.

Pick essential oils to match your bath-time mood.

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Now that you know the essential oil essentials, it’s time to take your bath to the next level. Here, Teachey shares her go-to combos to turn your tub into a truly transformative experience. For all of these recipes, combine the essential oils with 1 tablespoon (15 ml) of carrier oil before adding to bath.

Mood Boost Bath

Uplift and energize with this revitalizing combo that can also boost concentration and focus.

Muscle-Soothing Bath

Target tired, overworked muscles with this trio that may dial up circulation and dial down pain.

Relaxation Bath

This calming and relaxing combo can reduce stress and get you ready for bed.

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