A Nigerian man, Christian Onumajuru, has counselled people to walk away from abusive relationships and marriages.
He advised in a Facebook post on Friday, November 29, when he mourned a 25-year-old Nigerian woman, Jessica Olua, who was reportedly beaten to death by her husband.
He also admonished people including parents who encouraged victims of domestic violence to stay in abusive relationships.
“She was beaten to d3ath by her hubby, a man who was supposed to protect her. Marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled. But, where the purpose for which it was established is no longer there, it becomes a scam…. You quietly take a walk. You should choose peace over drama,” he wrote.
“Divorce is AN option; but, NOT the option. Whoever encourages you to stay put, hold on and keep hoping/ praying for your abusive partner to change does not mean well for you.
If you continually remain in that abusive union as a result of what people would say, bear in mind that when you die, those same people will only feast at your burial
Parents should learn to intervene in their children’s abusive unions. A parent who encourages his/ her child to remain in such a toxic union, simply because of the church or what people would say, is not fit to be a parent.
Ladies are more on the losing end…because of the kids; forgetting that such kids will still survive if they die. There is no marriage in heaven.
If you both cannot solve your differences amicably, peacefully separate for irreconcilable differences….Better to be divorced and alive watching your kids grow than to be dead and gone
Love is not blind. Look well before you leap…better a broken relationship than a battered marriage. May her soul and the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.
Linda Ikeji
